I have to admit I'm not very thrilled about my neighbor's character and his attitude towards my son. He has a son the same age as mine (9) and they got along until the neighbor called my son fat. When my husband confronted him he said he didn't mean it in that way it's just that he noticed my son had a "large appetite" when eating dinner with their family. I was pretty angry but I let my husband handle it. We let some time pass before he was allowed to go over there again. I know, I shouldn't have but my son really wanted to be friends with the neighbor kid. It wasn't long before my son informed me that the neighbor kid told him that his dad thinks my son is a cry baby because he got punched in the stomach by a 4 year old (that happens to live next door) and cried. Therefore, he doesn't really want my son at his house anymore. I wasn't there but just because the kid was 4 and my son 9 doesn't mean it didn't hurt him. Again, I bit my tongue although I really wanted to go over there and say something but refrained because really it sounds petty after thinking about it. So I let it go. Now I won't allow my son to go there and the neighbor kid stopped coming around months ago. My son pleads with me to go to their house but I don't trust the guy so I have to tell my son no. However, they do play together when my son goes next door to play with the 4 year old (the one who punched my kid). My son and the neighbor kid have been enrolled in the same martial arts class for the last several months. Well, a lot of times the neighbor sends his kid to my house to ask me for a ride when he has to work late. I have given him one each time he's asked. However, I have noticed that when my son asks the neighbor kid to play outside he never wants to play with my son. He prefers playing with the little boy next door which I find odd since he's 5 years younger. Often time, my son is upset because he wasn't invited to play with them and then he mopes around feeling hurt. If he knocks and asks if he can join in a lot of times the lady allows him in but I also try to set boundaries since I don't know if she really wants him there or not. It's kind of hard to say no to a kid so she may feel like she has no choice. I have noticed though that even her kid stopped coming around by us so I don't know if the neighbor mentioned the name calling incident to her and sided with him. A lot of times these kids don't think twice to play with my son until one of them isn't available and they have nobody else to play with but my son. That's when they come around which is once in a blue moon. So, I was thinking why should I give the neighbor kid a ride if he doesn't care to be friends with my son and his Dad dislikes my son? The funny thing is his Dad doesn't know that his son snitched on him about calling my son a crybaby. I also think that if you're going to sign your child up for an after school activity then it's your responsibility to get them there...not anyone else. Most of the time the lady next door drives the neighbors' kids to school in the mornings as well as to the martial arts class but that's her choice. She is also great friends with them so I'm assuming she just does it to do the family a favor. But when she's not home then I do it. Since this guy is really rude to my son and his kid has no interest in ever coming out and playing with him should I feel obligated to drive him anywhere? I know it would sound awful if I were to tell the kid no the next time he asked for a ride but then again their actions are pretty disrespectful towards my son. The kid has an older brother and a mother who can't drive but if it were me and I didn't drive I would walk 15 minutes to get my son to the class instead of having him ask people for a ride. Even if there was a neighbor with a kid in the same class, I'd still walk him. So, what would you do? Say no or give the kid a ride?