How do you tell your parents/in laws to tone down the holidays without hurting their feelings? I grew up in a great family, we gave each other one gift each from each person, meaning everyone got about 5-6 presents, and it was always something each person thought you'd really like. Christmas was never "over the top," we'd take turns opening gifts so everyone can enjoy it alongside you, you can share in the delight of a thoughtful gift, etc. My DH's parents do SO MUCH Christmas that it makes me uncomfortable. As in, probably 5,000 of stuff per child (they have three), and they have two DILs. We would be so happy with like 2-3 gifts, and giving them a gift or two each. Then enjoying a nice dinner and hanging out around the house, catching up and watching movies. How to tell them? We're adults, with jobs and mortgages and pets, and we're all late 20s, early 30s, paying our own ways through life. They're recently divorced and we're 99% sure that Christmas puts them in annual credit card debt. How to tell them we'd be happier with a Christmas that's more focused on time together and less focused on material things?