Dec. 3, 2013 was one of the most difficult days of my life. I went into labour at 36 weeks with my daughter, while my mother was admitted to the hospital a province away where she passed away.
She moved to another province because her partner (now my step-father - they married in Nov 12) got a job transfer out there. In Aug 12 she was diagnosed with cancer, she tried to talk him into moving back to my province so she could spend time with her family (she was given 6 months tops). My step-father was able to get the same position with the same money, but he dragged his feet and basically said that he refused to come back because he didn't want to leave his elderly mother.
She spent the last 16 months of her life in pain, going through radiation, and chemo therapy alone. My step-father worked and she sat at home all day on her own, in pain and lonely. She and I talked everyday, but we rarely saw each other because she was unable to travel regularly and neither was I. I was so excited that she was finally given permission to travel for Christmas, my c-section was schedule for Dec. 17 so she would be able to meet her newest grandchild.
When she was admitted to the hospital, all of my aunts, uncles, and brothers drove to the other province to say goodbye. No one told me that she passed away until the next day.
I am so mad. I furious I never got to say good bye, everything was kept from me for a full day, and that I have to be the strong one to keep things together for everyone else. I was planning a Celebration of Life for my mother in my province, I need it for closure, I need to say good bye. Well, my step-father decided that he didn't want to have it and that he refuses to bring her ashes. Then I find out that he is giving away her things to her friends to "remember her by" before me and my brothers have had the opportunity to go through and pick pieces.
Am I being a selfish baby? Do I have a right to be mad?