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Who actually is happy with their In Laws??

I have always heard of people talking badly about their inlaws, how they are, what they do, how they think, how they intrude, and are just straight out a pain in the you know what. I, thank goodness, actually when I met mine for the first time, I knew that this man will be my husband. Lol. I had already fallen for him and was head over heels over him, but his parents definitely sealed the deal. :) They are very similar to my family in a sense of morals and ways of thinking so I have been blessed! How about you? Any In law lovers here? Or if no, why and what would you change about them?

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  • I love my in-laws as well.  I always say I hit the jackpot with my husband's family.  They are all wonderful people.  I am really close with both of my sisters-in-law and I call his parents Mom & Dad.   :P
  • I love my in-laws. Very loving caring people. We don't see them often even though we live very close. They travel a lot. But my hubby & his mom talk regularly. They have similar styles to my parents so it makes it easy for everyone to get alone.
  • My MIL is awesome. FIL I dislike, but H and SIL dislike him too, so it isn't just me.
  • R.WilsonnyR.Wilsonny member
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    I have a love-not love relationship with my IL's. Nice people and all, but they interfere way too much in our business. I would rather have nice IL's though than mean crappy ones though, so in that department I consider myself lucky. The flip side - my family, I know my H probably isn't all that fond of them either. Again, nice people and my parents love him like a son, but they are the complete opposite of his family and too much drama with them. At the end of the day, both my H and I go home and just laugh it off and are thankful that we have each other to stay sane after a visit with either family ;) lol

     

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  • I like my in-laws. I only have a MIL and SIL. My MIL took me in when I moved from California to Wisconsin to be with my H. Occasionally she is passive aggressive about things and she demands that my H do things for her that she could do easily on her own but for the most part we have a good relationship.
  • R.WilsonnyR.Wilsonny member
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    Yea, that's the thing - I get along with my IL's too, but sometimes they just drive me bananas. Put it to you this way, my MIL has a HUGE painting - of herself - hanging in the living room of their house. I can't help but giggle every time I see it....lol
  • Yea, that's the thing - I get along with my IL's too, but sometimes they just drive me bananas. Put it to you this way, my MIL has a HUGE painting - of herself - hanging in the living room of their house. I can't help but giggle every time I see it....lol
    OMG! That is awesome! I really wish my MIL had something like that. She definitely drives me bananas some times.
  • I love my ILs. They are wonderful, kind people. We don't see them enough though.
  • My MIL and SIL are very....different.  But they're WONDERFUL women with VERY big hearts.

    My DH has an aunt, who helped raise him, whom I ADORE.  She was never able to have a live child (8 stillbirths/late term miscarriages), but I'd care for her when the time came as I would care for my own mother.

    My step-FIL... he treats my MIL nicely, which is about his only redeeming quality.  He is RUDE, loud, obnoxious, and has SERIOUS issues about money.  If we go out to dinner with him and MIL and we don't IMMEDIATELY offer to pay for AT LEAST our own half of the meal, he'll tell us we're moochers.  Or if we borrow the car (that DH BOUGHT HIS MOTHER), and we don't return it with a full tank of gas, he'll ask for the money to fill up the car.  It's BEYOND rude.

    Sigh.  Now I'm all worked up.
  • I tried really hard with mine at first, but then I realized that no matter how nice, polite, etc. I was, they would never like me. I'm not from their cultural or religious background, and the only DIL they want is someone from their tiny community. I'm a lot happier now that we moved far away and I no longer care about them liking me. It also helps that they treat their other DIL like crap too. (I mean, I feel bad for her, but she's been around way longer than me and they still treat her like a stranger, so I know I can't win.) I hesitate to say I hate them, but I really don't like them. I also think they both have anger issues and my FIL drinks too much (which either turns him mean, or gropey.) I'm glad some people love their inlaws, it sure would make life easier!! I've had boyfriends whose parents loved me, and it was really nice.
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  • I have issues with my MIL re: my kid but I love my FIL.  How annoyed I am with MIL depends on the day.  I generally like her as a person but she's made some decisions about my kid that make me suspicious of her judgement and intentions.
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  • I love my in-laws. I'm over there 3 or 4 times a week. Since my fiance is deployed I spent Thanksgiving with them and it was so much fun. Sad thing is, I'd rather spend Christmas with them than with my own family.
  • I'm not particularly crazy about my sister-in-law and mother-in-law, but I LOVE my Father in Law and Stepmother in Law. We're extremely close to my husband's father's family, and my husband absolutely loves my family. :) I wish we were closer to my MIL and SIL, but overall, I think my relationship with my in laws is pretty great. 
  • My MIL is tough for me to handle.  She's very brash, loud, pushy, and doesn't listen.  We actually got into an argument after our rehearsal for the wedding because she thought we should make sure the music was played quieter for the reception.  I told her it wasn't her call and DH backed me up.  I was pretty mad.  Don't get me wrong, I do love my MIL (she is incredibly sweet and caring), but she always gets on my nerves whenever we go to her place.

    As for the other half of my ILs, I love them.  DH has 2 half-sisters and a half-brother, plus aunts and uncles and nieces and nephews.  They have been very welcoming.  And I love getting away from the hustle and bustle of DC for a few hours when we go to the farm for family gatherings (the farm is in Culpeper, VA).
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  • They are fine...they don't bother us. We only see them a few times a year so I'm good with that.
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  • Yea, that's the thing - I get along with my IL's too, but sometimes they just drive me bananas. Put it to you this way, my MIL has a HUGE painting - of herself - hanging in the living room of their house. I can't help but giggle every time I see it....lol
    <br/ Lmao!!! I remember reading this on here one day from you I believe! That is soooooo funny!!!

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  • My In-laws are pretty good. They are loving people. I adore my FIL. My complaint is my SIL. Her and my MIL have the absolute tightest bond so it gets frustrating at times. SIL runs the family, basically. Don't get me wrong, she's very nice, but some things are hard to deal with. Thankfully, DH notices it so I can actually talk about some things about her with him.
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  • My ILs are fine; I have very little complaints. We see them usually every other month and holidays, which works out nicely.
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  • I love mine. Some of that may be that we only see them a few times a year, but most of it is that they are much like my own family. My exH's family is nuts, and they were so different from my family that we had huge problems. 
  • My inlaws are pretty fantastic overall, though my parents are terrible and therefore my wife's IL are pretty bad.
  • My In-laws are pretty good. They are loving people. I adore my FIL. My complaint is my SIL. Her and my MIL have the absolute tightest bond so it gets frustrating at times. SIL runs the family, basically. Don't get me wrong, she's very nice, but some things are hard to deal with. Thankfully, DH notices it so I can actually talk about some things about her with him.

    That's funny, kind of the same thing here. My SIL is who i am not too much a fan of. And she is my BIL's wife. She is probably the only one in the family I am not too fond of. Lol

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  • R.WilsonnyR.Wilsonny member
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    My In-laws are pretty good. They are loving people. I adore my FIL. My complaint is my SIL. Her and my MIL have the absolute tightest bond so it gets frustrating at times. SIL runs the family, basically. Don't get me wrong, she's very nice, but some things are hard to deal with. Thankfully, DH notices it so I can actually talk about some things about her with him.

    That's funny, kind of the same thing here. My SIL is who i am not too much a fan of. And she is my BIL's wife. She is probably the only one in the family I am not too fond of. Lol
    Oh, I can totally relate to this. Issues with the rest of the family aside, I've been with my H for almost 11 years, while my SIL has been in the family for half that time. She seems to feel this need to be in constant competition with me, which I´m having none of that ish - I´m just doing my own thing and my H and I are on our own timeline, which is something she doesn't seem to get. She and BIL got engaged literally 2 weeks before my wedding, then got married 5 months after ours, having 2 full on weddings. I don't know about all of you, but planning one wedding was stressful enough, let alone 2. She's actually been TTC too, which is fine and good, but while I've been very private and quiet about our journey, she's been telling the whole world about hers. And I think a lot of that is her need to be the center of attention. I could go on, but I'll just leave it at that.

    I think I've successfully managed to secure my place in hell now.
  • My FIL and MIL are awesome. They're like second parents to me. Weirdly enough, there's some things I feel more comfortable talking to them about than I would my own parents (not that my parents aren't great... there's just some religious differences they don't get about me). One SIL is... well hit or miss, she can be quite moody at times, though she has grown out of much of her spoiled-ness. When she's not moody for no reason she's cool. Other SIL... I shall leave my opinions unsaid, there's long-story drama there. Both BIL's are cool (H is one of five...). One BIL's wife, I have yet to meet, but am nervous about that given I have yet to hear a single good thing about her. So we'll see.
  • I love my in laws also. They are an amazing family. They have treated me like a part of the family since I first met them. I even went to school with my SIL's husband :)
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  • My in laws are wonderful. Hs extended family liked me from the start. His parents not so much. Once they excepted me they have been the sweetest people toward me. Of course their are things that they do that can drive me batty but I still love them. And I'm sure there are things I do that they can't stand.

    My family on the other hand are the crazy in laws. All very loving but my parents and siblings bring the drama. My extended family is sane thankfully. I'm so happy my H loves me and cares about them all so much (no matter what they do).

  • My In-laws are pretty good. They are loving people. I adore my FIL. My complaint is my SIL. Her and my MIL have the absolute tightest bond so it gets frustrating at times. SIL runs the family, basically. Don't get me wrong, she's very nice, but some things are hard to deal with. Thankfully, DH notices it so I can actually talk about some things about her with him.

    That's funny, kind of the same thing here. My SIL is who i am not too much a fan of. And she is my BIL's wife. She is probably the only one in the family I am not too fond of. Lol
    Oh, I can totally relate to this. Issues with the rest of the family aside, I've been with my H for almost 11 years, while my SIL has been in the family for half that time. She seems to feel this need to be in constant competition with me, which I´m having none of that ish - I´m just doing my own thing and my H and I are on our own timeline, which is something she doesn't seem to get. She and BIL got engaged literally 2 weeks before my wedding, then got married 5 months after ours, having 2 full on weddings. I don't know about all of you, but planning one wedding was stressful enough, let alone 2. She's actually been TTC too, which is fine and good, but while I've been very private and quiet about our journey, she's been telling the whole world about hers. And I think a lot of that is her need to be the center of attention. I could go on, but I'll just leave it at that.

    I think I've successfully managed to secure my place in hell now.
    At least she's married in. My DH only has the one sister. So she's stuck like glue. It also sucks because I'm about 8 years younger than she is so we don't have a lot of things to talk about.
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  • My In-laws are pretty good. They are loving people. I adore my FIL. My complaint is my SIL. Her and my MIL have the absolute tightest bond so it gets frustrating at times. SIL runs the family, basically. Don't get me wrong, she's very nice, but some things are hard to deal with. Thankfully, DH notices it so I can actually talk about some things about her with him.

    That's funny, kind of the same thing here. My SIL is who i am not too much a fan of. And she is my BIL's wife. She is probably the only one in the family I am not too fond of. Lol
    Oh, I can totally relate to this. Issues with the rest of the family aside, I've been with my H for almost 11 years, while my SIL has been in the family for half that time. She seems to feel this need to be in constant competition with me, which I´m having none of that ish - I´m just doing my own thing and my H and I are on our own timeline, which is something she doesn't seem to get. She and BIL got engaged literally 2 weeks before my wedding, then got married 5 months after ours, having 2 full on weddings. I don't know about all of you, but planning one wedding was stressful enough, let alone 2. She's actually been TTC too, which is fine and good, but while I've been very private and quiet about our journey, she's been telling the whole world about hers. And I think a lot of that is her need to be the center of attention. I could go on, but I'll just leave it at that.

    I think I've successfully managed to secure my place in hell now.

    Ugghh... She is jealous! There's always gotta be at least one in the family we don't get along with, right? lol

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