Hello Nesties I need a little help.
My DH and I have been married for a year and a half and we have never gotten into a sex "routine". We dated for 6 years before we got married, and chose to wait until we were married to have intercourse. Our wedding night hurt quite a bit (he went very slow and spent a lot of time on foreplay) and every other time we've had sex it's hurt just as badly- I have had to stop him because of the pain. We have gone for periods of up to 3 months without sex and it breaks my heart. I've spoken to my doctor about the pain and was basically told to drink a glass of wine and relax (I tried, the pain still persisted). I have a very low sex drive but I am willing to have sex whenever he wants and I "get into it" as best I can.
My husband is such a good man and I love him with all my heart. He has been incredibly patient and understanding but I can see our lack of sex is starting to taking a toll on our marriage. We have waited for so long and he deserves to have a great sex life with his wife.