I'm writing for the first time in this forum and it is on a rather sensitive subject. My husband and I got married 2 months ago and about 1 week after our honeymoon, picked up our first puppy. We had planned this and were fully prepared for it.
My husband's brother is severely autistic. He's 18 years old and in his parents care. He cannot speak, he cannot go to the bathroom on his own, he can feed himself but only when the food is placed in front of him, he cannot prepare it on his own. He also does not have very good balance, so when he walks, he stomps. He is unaware of anything in his path or anything small.
About 1 year prior to our wedding, We were over at my future in-laws home. His brother was walking around and decided to walk down the stairs onto the deck. Their family cat was sitting on one of the steps. He stomped down the steps and right onto the family cat's back. I'm not sure how he wasn't injured but I was more disturbed that no one flinched that he did this! Now I realize that he can't help it, but wouldn't they shoo the cat away if they noticed he was sitting there? (Which they did-They kept saying "Well I hope kitty moves")
Fast forward to a few weeks ago. My FIL and now BIL came over to our house. Our puppy was out walking around. He was sitting right in the kitchen and my BIL stomps right on his foot. He squeals loudly and is careful on it for the next several minutes. I was not home when this happened but it made me furious. Again, I realize that it isn't my BIL fault but I feel like my Inlaws don't care about anyone else's feelings but his. I asked my husband to tell his parents if they bring his brother over, to make sure the puppy is safely in his cage first before he comes inside. I don't think thats too much to ask. My husband is afraid that this will hurt their feelings but I think he should be worried for his puppy's safety.....This also makes me wonder what would happen if we would have a child and if my BIL would stomp on him/her if they were playing on the floor! Am I being insensitive? I don't plan to approach my inlaws about this topic. I think my husband should. I just want to know how to proceed with this. Thanks everyone.