Sorry for the long post, but there is a lot of background info to go with my post... My husband and I have been married for almost 3 yrs now and have been together for 5.5yrs. When we first started dating he was a virgin (which I didnt find out about until a long time later). So it makes sense that we had sex ALL the time then... after we had been dating for about 7mths I had to have surgery for appendicitis. During my recovery, he kept wanting sex but I would turn him down as I was in pain and still recovering from surgery (I had actually had surgery twice as the 1st time they didnt take my appendix because they though it was the problem). anyway... since then our sex life has slowly deteriorated. About 6mths before our wedding we just werent doing it at all anymore, and when I wanted it he would turn me away every time. We would fight about it and he would still never make any advances and would turn me down. I thought he was getting cold feet, or having an affair or something.... so out wedding came around like most newly weds on their honeymoon, you couldnt stop us and we couldnt get enough of each other!! but as soon as we were back home and back to work etc, nothing again... Then he started on some medication as he gets horrible upset stomachs, but the medication for it is also an anti-depressant... once he was on them, he would even have trouble getting aroused and when he could, he wouldnt be able to finish. so back to the DR and changed the medication and that was all sorted out. Anyway, we decided we were going to start trying for a baby, but he still wouldnt want sex, (I think he thought the stork would drop it off or something)... and when we would have sex it was like a chore, then finish, roll over go to sleep - no romance in it. We had a massive fight and decided we were going to stop trying and sort ourselves out... make up sex later and I was pregnant... during the pregnancy, he had every excuse under the sun to not have sex, even told me that my belly just didnt do it for him! So, now bub is 10mths old, I can't eve tell you the last time my husband made the 1st move for sex, when I do convince him to have sex it is actually horrible... he just lays there and doesnt touch me, then goes for it and goes to sleep. he never kisses me, and if I try and be flirty or sneaky he is not interested. a perfect example the other night he was watching tv ( a repeat I might add), I got in my best underwear and nightie and came out making all the moves and he told me I was invading his space!! Please help!!! What's wrong with me? or him? How can I fix things? Have I let it go on too long??