So before I go on my rant, let me set up the scene. I'm 21 and my fiance is 22. We're getting married on Sept 27th (yay!) and we live in a tiny 2 bedroom apartment. We have no kids and know we want them someday but are waiting until we know the time is right and feel comfortable. With all that being said, if we had the money, I would love to have kids right away! But because I'm responsible and not compulsive, I know it's better for everyone involved to wait until we are financially stable and have a house and don't hate our jobs. Our goal is like late 20s, maybe 28 or so? My mom had me when she was 31 so I come from a family where it's normal to wait to have kids. However, fiance's family is very adamant about us having kids right away, they even were hoping we would before we got married. Even at our engagement party, they made a sign that said "have a happy honeymoon, make lots of babies". It doesn't help keep my feelings at bay for wanting kids right now. It just causes a terrible tug of war between my head and my heart. And then even other people outside of the family don't understand why we're waiting. I said at work awhile ago how much I would love to have a kid right now and my coworker just said "so why don't you?" and I came back with saying "Just because I want a kid right now doesn't mean I'm ready for one." I'm just having a hard time fighting the urge to have children when I know it's best for us and these hypothetical kids to wait until we're ready.