Ok, in a nut shell:
I live in NY (where the majority of the invites would be going), and my mom lives across the country. I gave her the task of getting the invitations and printing/sending them. I approved the design and had faith that she would print them professionally (like she said she would). Well, a week or two later she texts me a picture of a DIFFERENT design that already has our info printed on it. I looked at it quickly as I was extremely busy at the time and thought, "It's pretty". When I finally saw the finished product (after ALL OF THEM were delivered), I thought....omg. It's BEDAZZLED!!! BEDAZZLED!?!?!? She failed to mention that this DIY kit would entail putting on a strip of "crystals", (her term). They are cheap looking rhinestones. Ok....they are so not in a straight line. Also, her printing wasn't centered perfectly. I am so mad typing this right now I could scream. I called her and yelled at her so bad that we didn't speak for 3 days. Not only did she embarrass me with the invites, she's been "making" all kinds of other things for the wedding, which is 11/2/13. I won't even go into that right now....her arts and crafts.
My question is this....
Since the invites already went out, the damage is done. That still doesn't take away from the fact that this is a CLASSY and ELEGANT wedding. She thinks they look fabulous. I was contemplating posting a pic. I think I will. Anyway, I am so mad my head is spinning. What can I do to rectify this? Not with her, we are fine now (so she thinks). I'll be mad for a while. I guess I'm wondering, since I didn't send a save the date thing (we started planning everything in early July of this year), can I send those now? Is there a way to do it that won't seem silly? I want our first impressions to be a lot better than this.