I suppose the title sounds a little harsh and straightforward (just don't go, right?), but my future brother-in-law is getting married. Neither my boyfriend or I want to go because the couple has been stepping all over us lately (not to mention no one wants to see them get married) but my boyfriend has been asked to be the best man.
[Just for clarification, by "stepping all over us" I mean that
they've rung up over $2,000 on our electric bill, destroyed our rental
property and the furniture in it (to the point that it had to be bulldozed), and tried to
purchase a house we had been looking into. This, combined with our
already stressed finances managed to send my boyfriend to the hospital
As cheap as this sounds, do we have to get them a gift? I hardly feel justified in buying them a blender as a formality when we have lost so much to them already. And secondly (bonus question!), can my boyfriend deny his brother's request to be the best man? The groomsmen may be stepping out soon as well.