My sister died 4 years ago from breast cancer at the age of 39. She had a 4 year old daughter. She had a lot of support from the Father's side of the family along with myself. My niece and I formed a strong bond as she stayed with me every other weekend for the last 4 years up until 8 months ago. The father began immediately dating online (even asked me to go stay overnight with him - I am happily married, 33 years. I was shocked and appalled). The first one he dated a month or so after my sister died was supposedly "the one" and three months later she was gone only to be replaced by another. This one he married within a few months. Once married she began to totally control him and his daughter. Within a year, she had succeeded in destroying his relationship with his family....all of them. They stopped allowing my niece to see any of them. It has been two years now. They went to court 8 months ago trying to get visitation with their granddaughter and I wrote an affidavit letter on their behalf stating what I experienced with my niece since their separation and how heartbroken she was. Immediately I was taken out of her life also.
Her birthday is coming up and they won't take my calls, texts, emails, nothing. I have asked that they let me give her a birthday gift but cannot get a response from them. His family wants to go to their house on her birthday, stand in the street and sing happy birthday to her. Let go balloons and just tell her we love and miss her. I guess I just need advice....would this be a good or bad thing to do? I know my niece longs to see us and is totally confused about it all. She will be 8 years old. We are not trying to start trouble, just want her to know we haven't forgotten her and love and miss her. Any advice?