Hi all, I am curious. Is it normal for men to shave before sex if they are scratchy, as a courtesy? Or do most women put up/are not bothered by 5 o'clock shadow? I have been married for a little over a year. When we got married, my DH had a moustache. I quickly learned that it bothered me when we made out or had sex (we had waited til marriage for sex and anything more than a kiss goodnight). When he realized it was keeping me from being able to come, he shaved it off the next day, which I thought was very thoughtful of him. Since then, there have been many times when we wanted to/started getting intimate and I realized that his stubble was bothering me (sandpaper!) and asked him to shave before we went further. So far he has been willing to do that, but it kind of came to a head tonight. I just got back into town and we were so excited to be back together again. I had to ask him to stop and go shave, and he did it, but I could hear him sighing and it seemed like he slammed the bathroom door a little more than necessary. When he finally came out, he said, "Well, maybe tomorrow night we can try again. I have a big gash on my lip now." He then proceeded to tell me that it is too much to ask him to shave twice a day (I don't ask him to shave in the morning, but whatever) and that he understands that it scratches me, but he's a man who has hair on his face, and not a prepubescent boy, and he's not going to do it anymore.
I don't really have experience with how other couples deal with this issue...am I asking too much? Is it common for men to shower and shave in the evening in preparation for sex as a matter of course? Or does this just not bother other women like it bothers me? I've gotten beard burn on my face before when I have tried to let it go, and just pretty much lay there wondering how soon it will be over because it hurts so much. I was too bummed out and sad to really discuss it with him tonight, but I'm hoping for some insight from others on what is normal and ways that others have dealt with this ...ahem...hairy issue. Thanks in advance!