Let me just start by saying that I love my MIL. She has been absolutely wonderful to me throughout our entire relationship, was wonderful at the wedding, cares so much about us, etc. She's a wonderful person.
DH and I live overseas. We have off and on for the past 5 years, now, and are overseas now. In the Spring, we are making a permanent move to Europe.
DH's parents (divorced) have a very hard time with this. For the past five years they have both cried to us over the phone, begged DH to move back "home", etc. It's really hard on DH and I, but what can we do? What do they expect us to do? Go home, leave our careers, our homes overseas just to go and get menial jobs in DH's hometown so we can be close to them? We recently spent a year living at home, and barely saw either of them. They never really had time for us, aren't the types to have sunday dinners or things like that, etc... they rarely called, etc.
But the moment we move back overseas, it all starts again. We called MIL on Christmas (at 2 am our time ) and as soon as she heard our voices she completely broke down and begged us to come home.
It's driving me up the wall... every time we tell her anything, she turns it into a joke(but not really ) about it being another reason we should be at home. So and so is getting married - well, if you lived at home you would save money on having to fly over here for the wedding... and if you lived here you could help so and so prepare for the wedding, etc. There's a global recession - perfect reason to move home! Jobs are always more stable at home, you know. etc.
My family is used to me being all over the place - and they couldn't care less about me living overseas. They're happy for us and are proud of us ( even though they are convinced our lives are something right out of an Indiana Jones movie.... ) but DH's family is always on us about moving home. Wanting to know when we're going to finish our little "adventures" and move home to make babies.
Do they not realize how difficult it is for us to live so far away from our family, friends, culture, language.... without them making it even harder every time we speak with them??
Any idea how to get them to cut it out??