I've been posting on here for about a month and half about my marrital issues. The short story is DH brought up to me not long ago (1.5 months) that he's just not feeling the love. We've had 3 marriage counseling sessions so far to try to get back on the right path. First session was together, the next two were individual time with the therapist. So far in our counseling there have been a few themes that we're exploring - unrealistic expectations of love, different stages of love, the need for space, and initiating ways to please your partner (think sweet little favors, not sex), doing things you aren't always in the mood for (like being sweet) b/c it can help the other partner feel loved. I know he loves me, but its the romantic love that isn't very strong right now. He's not cheating and he wants our marriage to work, as do I.
Last night we had a deep conversation after therapy about space. DH brought up that it might be a good idea to almost act like we're dating again. I think his intentions were good, thinking that by having some space we would feel the desire for each other again. But it still hurt me to hear pretty bad. He brought up the idea of possible even sleeping in seperate bedrooms for a little while. Ugh ... that really got me I asked if we could hold of on big changes like that until we have our next therapy session together after the holidays.
I don't know ... what does anyone think about all this? I want to give him some space, but the idea of seperate bedrooms seems like it could make things worse. I go through spurts were I'm just not doing so great with these things and last night & today is one of those bad days.