So.. my FI and I got engaged this past August. My FMIL told me that night after we got engaged that she was at a flea market earlier that day and almost bought a baby outfit, but FFIL made her put it back. I didn't take it personally or laughed about it.
Few wks later, we spent the weekend with them to go to a 50th anniversary for one of his relatives. I was okay with it. We went to a fall festival the night before the anniversary mass so there a lot of babies there. She made a joke about us having a baby.. again.. I didn't say anything because I really didn't appreciate it. She apologized to me the next morning. I told her that we just need to focus on paying off FI college loan before thinking about having kids. Her reply was "Oh we'll help you." : O I don't understand it.
We have seen them 2 or 3 times since then.. she brought up the topic of a grandbaby every time that I've seen her since we got engaged. I told FI after the 2nd time that it would be nice if he would simply tell her to stop joking about it around me for now since I have the wedding on mind and don't want to have kids for at least 5 yrs.
Please don't get me wrong because we do love kids very much, but we are not the type that like to be in big debts. We know that kids are expensive and requires a lot of time, love, and attention. We just want to provide our kids with a good home to live in. It is simply not our priority right now.
How should I handle this the next time? I don't think I can stay quiet about it with her the next time she brings it up. FI tried to get her to stop and nothing worked. Sorry, but the joke is starting to make me sick since I'm not close to her to begin with.