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  • Speaking of which, I would really like for the GTG invites to be opened back up for anyone to participate. I know I've mentioned repeatedly that I did not want to be removed from the list and I know there are others who were removed without confirmation as well. 
  • image WendyToo:
    Speaking of which, I would really like for the GTG invites to be opened back up for anyone to participate. I know I've mentioned repeatedly that I did not want to be removed from the list and I know there are others who were removed without confirmation as well. 

    Maybe there should be two GTGs? Has that been tried in the past?


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  • image McGillicuddy13:

    image WendyToo:
    Speaking of which, I would really like for the GTG invites to be opened back up for anyone to participate. I know I've mentioned repeatedly that I did not want to be removed from the list and I know there are others who were removed without confirmation as well. 

    Maybe there should be two GTGs? Has that been tried in the past?

    There have been others, but doesn't that just create more of a clique-y environment? When new posters come they are ways encouraged and invited to "the" board GTGs, but that option for some reason isn't available to people who have posted here for 6 years?
  • image WendyToo:
    image McGillicuddy13:

    image WendyToo:
    Speaking of which, I would really like for the GTG invites to be opened back up for anyone to participate. I know I've mentioned repeatedly that I did not want to be removed from the list and I know there are others who were removed without confirmation as well. 

    Maybe there should be two GTGs? Has that been tried in the past?

    There have been others, but doesn't that just create more of a clique-y environment? When new posters come they are ways encouraged and invited to "the" board GTGs, but that option for some reason isn't available to people who have posted here for 6 years?

    Maybe so, and to be clear, I'm not disagreeing with you that everyone should be invited to "the" GTG. I guess I don't always think that cliques are a bad thing. If the cliques are catty and it spawns a negative environment, that's obviously bad, but it's undeniable that some women have more in common than others.


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  • image WendyToo:
    Speaking of which, I would really like for the GTG invites to be opened back up for anyone to participate. I know I've mentioned repeatedly that I did not want to be removed from the list and I know there are others who were removed without confirmation as well. 

    Not trying to be snarky, but have you PM'd the GTG coordinator to be added back to the email list?

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    image WendyToo:
    Speaking of which, I would really like for the GTG invites to be opened back up for anyone to participate. I know I've mentioned repeatedly that I did not want to be removed from the list and I know there are others who were removed without confirmation as well. 

    Not trying to be snarky, but have you PM'd the GTG coordinator to be added back to the email list?

    I've discussed it with her openly on the board.  Is there something I'm missing that would be revealed by PM?  You guys all took a vote to not allow certain people?

  • image WendyToo:
    image amidavey06:

    image WendyToo:
    Speaking of which, I would really like for the GTG invites to be opened back up for anyone to participate. I know I've mentioned repeatedly that I did not want to be removed from the list and I know there are others who were removed without confirmation as well. 

    Not trying to be snarky, but have you PM'd the GTG coordinator to be added back to the email list?

    I've discussed it with her openly on the board.  Is there something I'm missing that would be revealed by PM?  You guys all took a vote to not allow certain people?

    Maybe it might be a little more tactful to PM her instead of having an open discussion on the board about it. Just my opinion. That's if you were actually interested in attending the GTGs.

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  • image amidavey06:
    image WendyToo:
    image amidavey06:

    image WendyToo:
    Speaking of which, I would really like for the GTG invites to be opened back up for anyone to participate. I know I've mentioned repeatedly that I did not want to be removed from the list and I know there are others who were removed without confirmation as well. 

    Not trying to be snarky, but have you PM'd the GTG coordinator to be added back to the email list?

    I've discussed it with her openly on the board.  Is there something I'm missing that would be revealed by PM?  You guys all took a vote to not allow certain people?

    Maybe it might be a little more tactful to PM her instead of having an open discussion on the board about it. Just my opinion. That's if you were actually interested in attending the GTGs.

    Really I didn't want there to be any question of what I did or did not say, but I think the (lack of) support in this post speaks volumes about who is or is not welcome. I wish that it weren't that way, because people have said they essentially don't feel like this is a friendly environment to share about their lives. I think the only way to change that is to give everyone the choice to participate in GTGs as well. 

    I'd say PW and I are a great example of this. We've definitely butted heads in political (and other) debates on here, but one day we met and we totally get each other in a different way now. I love her and I'm glad that I got to know her (and I wish she were here to tell me I'm wrong in the politics post because it would start a debate.  Surely I am not the only one with an opinion and I certainly don't have it all figured out).  

  • I will say that I used to be off of the original gtg lists, but after this was discussed the first time, several of us chimed in that we weren't on them for whatever reason. To be fair, I was added almost immediately after that conversation. I've never been to one since I've been added, so in my case, I wouldn't blame her if I was now removed at this point.  

    It really could be just an oversight, is my long-winded point. I really think, at least in my case, it was.  

  • The more the merrier, Wendy.  I enjoy getting to know people I haven't met IRL, and I'm always thrilled to have someone new come.  Bobkat, you, whoever.  Sunny daze came to a few and was always welcomed.  PM Allison your email address and get re-added so you can enjoy a night out with us.  Bring Puppy and okla with you.  Seriously.
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  • Oh hells bells. You've admitted in previous posts that you like to cause drama just to cause drama. This is apparently a slow time in your life. Stir the pot please. Yes, you are correct. It's a secret society that you aren't invited too. Darn we've been busted. ConfusedIs that better?

    Seriously, I wish I knew how to find old posts because you have this discussion every 3 months or so and I say the the same thing each time. Everytime we have this conversation I say the following, "If you want to be put back on the evite list pm me your info just like everyone else on the board." But, you'd rather gripe and complain about it and pull this 6th grade drama bit. To review...if you don't open the evite after 3 times I send you an email to ask if you still want to be on it. If you don't respond I take you off. This is the case with you. You either didn't respond or you requested to be taken off. I honestly don't remember which one it was because it happened so long ago. I know you are intelligent so I don't understand the misconnect between the multiple conversations we've had with the simple solution of pm me your info=added to the list. Don't send me info=no evite.

    And, let's call a spade a spade shall we? Don't act like you don't know where we get together. You have a friend on the evite list who shares with you where we go. If you really wanted to come you would be her plus 1. You admitted that you'd rather gtg with the other gtg group and that's totally fine. We don't all have to get along and go to each other's gtgs. If you feel like you have more in common with the other gtg girls go with them. It's not hurting feelings. Come if you want but shut your mouth about not being able to get on the evite list. That's your choice and your choice only. I'm done with the 6th grade drama.      

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    DannyandAllison's Bio
  • Yeah, not one bit of that is true, none. In fact, here's the last time we discussed it and you specifically address other people offering to add them back, but to me you only provide excuses for removing me. 

    http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/1/62005082/ShowThread.aspx" target="_blank" title="http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/1/62005082/ShowThread.aspx">http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/1/62005082/ShowThread.aspx

     

  • And who exactly do you think is emailing me about your GTG details? And why would they?  
  • Your link doesn't work. I know exactly who is emailing you. I handled that with her privately. And to answer your question as to why would they. I guess it's because you like drama? In your words you "want to crash their party" so maybe that was your motive? I don't know that's a question you need to ask yourself. You asked her, she told you. Lame. Problem solve please by Pm me your info so I can add you or don't not. It makes no difference to me, just wish you'd find another issue to obsess over. Put all this energy into planning a beautiful wedding!! I'm not going to respond to this post anymore, I'm too old to play these games. Have a wonderful evening.   
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    DannyandAllison's Bio
  • I assure you I have not and am not creeping on your GTGs. Nobody is emailing me about them. 
  • The "spy" called herself out to another nestie.  She doesn't post here anymore and I can't remember her name but she came to 2 or 3 GTGs that I know of.  

      

  • image jesseandbri:

    The "spy" called herself out to another nestie.  She doesn't post here anymore and I can't remember her name but she came to 2 or 3 GTGs that I know of.  

      

    I don't have a clue who you're talking about honestly, but I promise you nobody has ever emailed me the evite information after I was removed from the list.  I mean its possible I made a joke like that at some point because I've been pretty straightforward about thinking the way it has been handled was bogus, but there's certainly never been a spy sending me details. Wtf would I do with collecting 2-3 years worth of evites for things I wasn't attending?

  • I never asked to be removed nor ignored three evites. I was taken off simply because I dared to call some of you out on your BS. I don't really care, because of any of the old ones, Boymom is the only one I'd care to see. I'd like an opportunity to meet some of the newbies, but not so much that I'm willing to share a dinner table with crazy people.  

    ETA: I'm getting soft in my old age, so let me amend "crazy people" to "people who gossip and make fun of people as they pretend to be their friend and dig up *** about people and post it anonymously." 

  • image oklagirl:

    I never asked to be removed nor ignored three evites. I was taken off simply because I dared to call some of you out on your BS. I don't really care, because of any of the old ones, Boymom is the only one I'd care to see. I'd like an opportunity to meet some of the newbies, but not so much that I'm willing to share a dinner table with crazy people.  

    ETA: I'm getting soft in my old age, so let me amend "crazy people" to "people who gossip and make fun of people as they pretend to be their friend and dig up *** about people and post it anonymously." 

    I have no idea what set us off on the wrong foot. I know our opinions differ on... well, just about everything... but I remember sitting next to you at one of Bri's parties and actually enjoyed your company and talking to you. You're a lot different IRL than online, like a lot of people are probably. Anyway. I really have no problem with any of you coming to a GTG. I don't have any hard feelings towards any of you and I'm not sure how this all got started. 

  • Also, planning the GTGs sort of got dumped on Allison when the other girl moved. She has done a great job. She is not malicious and wouldn't have intentionally excluded anyone. She has a lot going on, always, and whatever error could have been made was probably just an oversight and not her attempt to intentionally exclude anyone. 
  • image oklagirl:

    I never asked to be removed nor ignored three evites. I was taken off simply because I dared to call some of you out on your BS. I don't really care, because of any of the old ones, Boymom is the only one I'd care to see. I'd like an opportunity to meet some of the newbies, but not so much that I'm willing to share a dinner table with crazy people.  

    ETA: I'm getting soft in my old age, so let me amend "crazy people" to "people who gossip and make fun of people as they pretend to be their friend and dig up *** about people and post it anonymously." 

    I still think you'd enjoy a GTG.  They've been pretty small lately and it would be nice to have new and old faces. 

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    I never asked to be removed nor ignored three evites. I was taken off simply because I dared to call some of you out on your BS. I don't really care, because of any of the old ones, Boymom is the only one I'd care to see. I'd like an opportunity to meet some of the newbies, but not so much that I'm willing to share a dinner table with crazy people.  

    ETA: I'm getting soft in my old age, so let me amend "crazy people" to "people who gossip and make fun of people as they pretend to be their friend and dig up *** about people and post it anonymously." 

    I'm really tired of your accusations. Listen, I didn't just wake up one day and decide of all the people on the evite I'll pick you and Wendy to kick off. 2 scenarios happened. Either you didn't respond after 3 messages or asked to be removed. Maybe you didn't open the evite and I sent you an email and my messages went to your spam? I don't care to argue about it anymore. You weren't taken off because you called someone out. Grow up. There are people who have called me out, each other out etc. who aren't removed and remain on the evite. You aren't that special for me to choose you and no one else. I have no problem with anyone on the evite list or the board. What I do have a problem with is the I can do/say it but no one else can mentality. "People who gossip and make fun of people as they pretend to be their friend" statement crawls all over me because that's exactly what was being done on your side of the camp. No one is going to admit it but I've seen the email from the nesite who was sharing the evite locations. I'm done talking about this because people can't be truthful and I don't have anymore time to waste to this nonsense. Again, for the infinite time, if you want to be placed back on the evite list just pm me with your info.

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    DannyandAllison's Bio
  • image Dannyand Allison:
    image oklagirl:

    I never asked to be removed nor ignored three evites. I was taken off simply because I dared to call some of you out on your BS. I don't really care, because of any of the old ones, Boymom is the only one I'd care to see. I'd like an opportunity to meet some of the newbies, but not so much that I'm willing to share a dinner table with crazy people.  

    ETA: I'm getting soft in my old age, so let me amend "crazy people" to "people who gossip and make fun of people as they pretend to be their friend and dig up *** about people and post it anonymously." 

    I'm really tired of your accusations. Listen, I didn't just wake up one day and decide of all the people on the evite I'll pick you and Wendy to kick off. 2 scenarios happened. Either you didn't respond after 3 messages or asked to be removed. Maybe you didn't open the evite and I sent you an email and my messages went to your spam? I don't care to argue about it anymore. You weren't taken off because you called someone out. Grow up. There are people who have called me out, each other out etc. who aren't removed and remain on the evite. You aren't that special for me to choose you and no one else. I have no problem with anyone on the evite list or the board. What I do have a problem with is the I can do/say it but no one else can mentality. "People who gossip and make fun of people as they pretend to be their friend" statement crawls all over me because that's exactly what was being done on your side of the camp. No one is going to admit it but I've seen the email from the nesite who was sharing the evite locations. I'm done talking about this because people can't be truthful and I don't have anymore time to waste to this nonsense. Again, for the infinite time, if you want to be placed back on the evite list just pm me with your info.

    Please do forward me that email. I'd love to see it.  

  • I can guarantee you I have never made fun of someone the second they left a GTG. That's on you guys. 
  • image oklagirl:
    I can guarantee you I have never made fun of someone the second they left a GTG. That's on you guys. 

    Actually, if that references the 'other' GTGs, I can honestly say I've never seen anyone within that group of people ever say anything bad about anyone else in that group, so unless they're all talking about me when I'm not around, I think it's safe to say the whole accusation of pretending to be friends and gossiping about each other is off base. 

  • image WendyToo:

    image oklagirl:
    I can guarantee you I have never made fun of someone the second they left a GTG. That's on you guys. 

    Actually, if that references the 'other' GTGs, I can honestly say I've never seen anyone within that group of people ever say anything bad about anyone else in that group, so unless they're all talking about me when I'm not around, I think it's safe to say the whole accusation of pretending to be friends and gossiping about each other is off base. 

    OK, I admit it....I totally told Okla I thought you were a b*tch the second you left that one time..... 

    Seriously, though, I have no input on the question of why certain people were removed from the Evite list.  I am still on the list, and I do open it and consider going from time to time.

    However, I will say, as someone who usually stays out of this kind of stuff and hasn't had any real board drama with anyone, that the reason why I haven't been to one of the board GTGs in a really long time is because of exactly what Okla referenced.  I have seen certain people making fun of their supposed friends and talking behind their backs as soon as they were gone.  I saw enough of that sh*t when I was in high school and have no desire to be anywhere near it as an adult.  There are a few people from the GTGs that I really enjoy, but unless that Mean Girls sort of vibe has changed, I will not likely attend again in the near future.

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