In December 2007 DH and I started dating. At the same time, I was given a rescued cat, Evie, as a gift. She is very skiddish and took almost 6 months just to get used to me alone... Fast forward to 2010- DH and I get married and move in together. I (of course) brought Evie. DH said he was a bit annoyed because he has a small cat allergy. Not their fur or dander- but their spit. But he let me bring her anyway... He has never lived with cats growing up (they had dogs), so he was not used to litter on the floor. I cleaned the litter box out every day or every other day. And I swept the litter every day, so there would be less of it, but if you have a cat, you know they kick litter everywhere! To add to that, since Evie is so skiddish, she would hiss and claw at him when he tried to pet her. I felt awful, and kept assuring him that she would come around. Now, two years later, she is still skiddish. She will let him pet her sometimes, but she usually runs away from him or hisses!
Anyway.. We moved out of our apartment into a nicer condo. For whatever reason, Evie started scratching the doorframes. Not good. DH told me if I didn't get her de-clawed, she would have to go. I am 100% against de-clawing, and she was an adult cat by that time, so it was out of the question anyway. So I bought her some scratching posts and sprayed the doorframes and couches with no-scratch spray about twice a month. She stopped scratching, but the damage was done. DH is pretty annoyed. And THEN a few months ago I switched Evie to a new type of litter. She had a fit and peed on our bed.. DH basically told me to get rid of her. But after seeing how upset I was, he said we could keep her if we locked her out of the bedrooms. I was fine with it. So ever since then, she has only been allowed in the kitchen, living room, and second bathroom, where we kep her litter box.
DH and I are about to buy a house. He said she has to be an outside cat ONLY. She can't come inside at all. He said he has given me and her too many chances... He is worried that she will scratch up the walls at this house or rip up the carpet (she tugged at it a little in our first apartment for about a week when we first moved in).
I feel awful because (1) She is a rescue and is so scared of everything, I'm worried she will get hit by a car or something, (2) we live in FL and it gets so awfully hot in the summer, I feel like she will bake up out there!, (3) we will be moving around December/January- so, the coldest time of the year, (4) DH wants me to bring her to the new house in a carrier and just put her outside, with no time to get acclimated- we live in a 2nd story condo right now, so she can't get used to grass or trees or bugs or anything.
Am I being selfish in wanting to keep her inside? I even offered that we let her outside during the day/while we are at work, and then let her inside just at night.
Do you agree with DH that we have had too many chances already? He said "I don't see how you get enjoyment from it since it gives us so much greif. It is such a neusance- yet you constantly put it in between us like it is more important to you than I am. Why do you insist on keeping it?"
I agree with DH- I am annoyed at having this conversation over and over again! Why can't he just realize that just because all he sees is a dumb cat- I see my little baby?