A few weeks ago my MIL told DH and I that she was disappointed last year when we didn't have a birthday party for her. DH only has a brother and no sisters and she said now that a girl married into the family, she was hoping to have some more sentimental stuff. She wasn't asking for a big party, she just meant getting me, DH, BIL, FIL, BIL's gf and maybe DH's aunt together for some cake.
So DH and I are going to have a party for her. We decided on either a karaoke party or a barbeque. Either way, we want to have it outside. Her birthday is November 2nd, though, so it obviously can't be a birthday party if it's going to be outside. Her wedding anniversary is November 3rd so that won't work, either.
Would it be really weird to just have a party this summer? I like the idea of surprising her with it, so she wouldn't know about it ahead of time. But it wouldn't be a gift-giving occasion so it's not like we're just asking people to buy her presents. Just her extended family and friends hanging out for a barbeque this summer to make her feel appreciated. And it doesn't hurt that I (and BIL's gf) love to plan things.
DH is worried that most people won't come if it's not synced with a big event in her life. WDYT? Please, be honest. TIA.