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Thursday!

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TTC#1 since 1/2011

1/2012: Fertility workup including SA/HSG - no issues. DX: Unexplained

IUI#1 = BFN 7/2012

IUI#2 = BFN 8/2012

IVF#1 = BFP - ER 12/6, ET 12/11 - 20R, 15M, 14F - 2 transferred, 2 frozen

Betas: #1(9dp5dt)-50, #2(13dp5dt)-467, #3(16dp5dt)-839, #4(20dp5dt)-1825

Saw HB - 7w1d, missed m/c - 9w1d

PAIF/SAIF Welcome

Re: Thursday!

  • My stomach has been bothering me the past couple of days :-(. I don't know what's causing it. But I got super nauseous last night when I was trying to do my workout. I couldn't even finish it and I've never had that happen before :-/

    Just two more days until my three day weekend!

    Anniversary 
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    ~TTC Buddies with akcrrr and amandaf6383~
    ~Knottie/Nestie Besties with *ecinereb* - Congratulations!~
    TTC since June 2011 dx: PCOS
    Clomid+IUI: Cancelled b/c didn't respond (June 2012)
    Femara+Trigger+IUI #1: BFN :-( (July 2013)
    Natural Cycle (8/7/13)- BFP!  Beta #1 (9/10/13): 509 Progesterone: 18.64  Beta #2 (9/12/13): 1118
    Baby N born 5/9/14
  • As some of you have probably already read, I survived BR!!!!!  And, I'm so excited that the Aggies are coming back to Dallas to play SMU.  I'm just hoping that it really will be at the SMU stadium and not Jerry World.  Lastly, I did all that baking and it was a hit with everyone that I took stuff too.  Plus, I barely ate anything while the food was here hanging around at our house.  All my clothes still fit (and maybe are a little looser).  Wahoo!!!!!
  • image juliebug1997:
    As some of you have probably already read, I survived BR!!!!!  And, I'm so excited that the Aggies are coming back to Dallas to play SMU.  I'm just hoping that it really will be at the SMU stadium and not Jerry World.  Lastly, I did all that baking and it was a hit with everyone that I took stuff too.  Plus, I barely ate anything while the food was here hanging around at our house.  All my clothes still fit (and maybe are a little looser).  Wahoo!!!!!

    I always hate when we play them because we aren't yet at a position to beat them! :-P

    Anniversary 
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    ~TTC Buddies with akcrrr and amandaf6383~
    ~Knottie/Nestie Besties with *ecinereb* - Congratulations!~
    TTC since June 2011 dx: PCOS
    Clomid+IUI: Cancelled b/c didn't respond (June 2012)
    Femara+Trigger+IUI #1: BFN :-( (July 2013)
    Natural Cycle (8/7/13)- BFP!  Beta #1 (9/10/13): 509 Progesterone: 18.64  Beta #2 (9/12/13): 1118
    Baby N born 5/9/14
  • image sparklingdiamond:

    image juliebug1997:
    As some of you have probably already read, I survived BR!!!!!  And, I'm so excited that the Aggies are coming back to Dallas to play SMU.  I'm just hoping that it really will be at the SMU stadium and not Jerry World.  Lastly, I did all that baking and it was a hit with everyone that I took stuff too.  Plus, I barely ate anything while the food was here hanging around at our house.  All my clothes still fit (and maybe are a little looser).  Wahoo!!!!!

    I always hate when we play them because we aren't yet at a position to beat them! :-P

    I do remember when it was the other way around.  I'm just glad that they're coming back to DFW.  In the good old days (but not when dinosaurs were here), they came to DFW every year (SMU or TCU) and Houston (UofH or Rice).  I miss those days.  <tear>

  • AWs:

    Texas won last night. It wasn't pretty but at least it's a W.

    I have been dilligent on workout and exercise for three days and am 1.8 pounds down. This is water weight but whatever, it makes me feel better to at least be losing again.

    Other things:

    People with poor customer service piss me off. People with broken fax machines piss me off. Offices with broken heaters piss me off. Star Telegram jacked up prices piss me off.

     

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    TTC#1 since 1/2011

    1/2012: Fertility workup including SA/HSG - no issues. DX: Unexplained

    IUI#1 = BFN 7/2012

    IUI#2 = BFN 8/2012

    IVF#1 = BFP - ER 12/6, ET 12/11 - 20R, 15M, 14F - 2 transferred, 2 frozen

    Betas: #1(9dp5dt)-50, #2(13dp5dt)-467, #3(16dp5dt)-839, #4(20dp5dt)-1825

    Saw HB - 7w1d, missed m/c - 9w1d

    PAIF/SAIF Welcome
  • image lesalyric:

    Star Telegram jacked up prices piss me off.

    I bought their paper when I lived in Tarrant County and for six months I had to call every day to get it delivered.  At the end of six months, they wanted me to re-up and I told them I never got it in the first place.  They then gave me another six months for free.  I still never got the paper and now I'm glad that I don't.  I really don't think that FWST covers the news of all of the Metroplex as well as DMN.  I'm getting ready to ask Bill for a subscription to DMN because they cover a little more of the whole area, IMO.  

  • Oooooh, I forgot!!!!!  Bill's parents gave us a nice little check (they've given one every other year since I've been in the picture and it was considerably more than the previous one).  We've decided to use it to pay off our summer cruise.  This means that I can use my paycheck to renew our annual passes to WDW!!!!  So excited.  AND, he asked for money in his budget to go to two more conferences.  Both are in Orlando.  I might not get to go to one because it is the week right after prom, but we'll see. 
  • Because this is such a sensitive issue with my family, I want to bury this in the daily post instead of making a post to ask your advice.

    You are all aware of the situation with my uncle. My aunt and cousins will be relocating to Texas and initally will stay with my grandmother in W. Texas. There is little oppurtunity for decent work/salary and no decent community college system for the two of my cousins who are currently attending CC. That being said, there have been offhand mentions by people in my family about the three of them coming to live with us.

    DH is very against this and I don't think it's a great idea. At the same time I know we are going to have a hard time telling them no when they ask us outright as we both feel like their situation is so unfortunate and love them very much. My immediate family is going to be VERY for them moving in with us as everyone wants them to get as much help as possible, but of course they all conveniently live in areas that offer little/no oppurtunity and will not have to actually take them in.

    I know my family would help with the costs, so it's not a financial issue. It's more of I am about to embark on one of the most stressful things I have done in my life and don't need added stress kind of thing. I recognize this as completely selfish.

    Thoughts? Do I suck it up and take them in? Do I stand my ground and say no regardless of the drama it will cause in my family?

    [IMG]http://i55.photobucket.com/albums/g136/lesalyric/15349_591037319564_25305541_34753593_3721279_n-1.jpg[/IMG]

    TTC#1 since 1/2011

    1/2012: Fertility workup including SA/HSG - no issues. DX: Unexplained

    IUI#1 = BFN 7/2012

    IUI#2 = BFN 8/2012

    IVF#1 = BFP - ER 12/6, ET 12/11 - 20R, 15M, 14F - 2 transferred, 2 frozen

    Betas: #1(9dp5dt)-50, #2(13dp5dt)-467, #3(16dp5dt)-839, #4(20dp5dt)-1825

    Saw HB - 7w1d, missed m/c - 9w1d

    PAIF/SAIF Welcome
  • image lesalyric:

    Because this is such a sensitive issue with my family, I want to bury this in the daily post instead of making a post to ask your advice.

    You are all aware of the situation with my uncle. My aunt and cousins will be relocating to Texas and initally will stay with my grandmother in W. Texas. There is little oppurtunity for decent work/salary and no decent community college system for the two of my cousins who are currently attending CC. That being said, there have been offhand mentions by people in my family about the three of them coming to live with us.

    DH is very against this and I don't think it's a great idea. At the same time I know we are going to have a hard time telling them no when they ask us outright as we both feel like their situation is so unfortunate and love them very much. My immediate family is going to be VERY for them moving in with us as everyone wants them to get as much help as possible, but of course they all conveniently live in areas that offer little/no oppurtunity and will not have to actually take them in.

    I know my family would help with the costs, so it's not a financial issue. It's more of I am about to embark on one of the most stressful things I have done in my life and don't need added stress kind of thing. I recognize this as completely selfish.

    Thoughts? Do I suck it up and take them in? Do I stand my ground and say no regardless of the drama it will cause in my family?

    I agree with Randall.  I don't know how to say no but you guys, if you decide to do the IVF or other treatments, it's going to be hard enough with just you and Randall.  Three new people in the house are going to make it so much more difficult.  T&Ps for you two.

  • image lesalyric:

    Because this is such a sensitive issue with my family, I want to bury this in the daily post instead of making a post to ask your advice.

    You are all aware of the situation with my uncle. My aunt and cousins will be relocating to Texas and initally will stay with my grandmother in W. Texas. There is little oppurtunity for decent work/salary and no decent community college system for the two of my cousins who are currently attending CC. That being said, there have been offhand mentions by people in my family about the three of them coming to live with us.

    DH is very against this and I don't think it's a great idea. At the same time I know we are going to have a hard time telling them no when they ask us outright as we both feel like their situation is so unfortunate and love them very much. My immediate family is going to be VERY for them moving in with us as everyone wants them to get as much help as possible, but of course they all conveniently live in areas that offer little/no oppurtunity and will not have to actually take them in.

    I know my family would help with the costs, so it's not a financial issue. It's more of I am about to embark on one of the most stressful things I have done in my life and don't need added stress kind of thing. I recognize this as completely selfish.

    Thoughts? Do I suck it up and take them in? Do I stand my ground and say no regardless of the drama it will cause in my family?

    Live with you?  As in, indefinitely?

    Honestly, I vote no absolutely not.  Your still a newlywed couple and working on building your family and life together.    Your husband doesn't like it and neither do you, so I'd say stick with your gut.

    Can the family not pitch "in" together and help them with an affordable apartment rent for a few months, until they get on their feet?  Three people, even with part time jobs, should be able to make rent...and the family could help with other expenses?  There has to be better way.

    I know it must be terribly difficult, but please don't let your family pressure you into this.   If you do let them move in with you, it needs to be by the choice of you and your husband only (and equally).

  • I agree with Julie.  Given what you and your husband are dealing with right now, adding those people would increase your stress, making conceiving even more difficult.  I think if they were crashing with you for, say, a week or two until they find a place, it would be different.
  • It is being presented as living with us "until they get on their feet" which both Randall and I think is a slippery slope.

    Thanks to you girls. I knew I was right to say no but you know how it is when it comes to family, I wanted to get affirmation that I am not being cold-hearted toward them.

    ETA: Tiffany - that's a good idea about the apartment. I should mention that to my grandmother/mom/aunts.

    [IMG]http://i55.photobucket.com/albums/g136/lesalyric/15349_591037319564_25305541_34753593_3721279_n-1.jpg[/IMG]

    TTC#1 since 1/2011

    1/2012: Fertility workup including SA/HSG - no issues. DX: Unexplained

    IUI#1 = BFN 7/2012

    IUI#2 = BFN 8/2012

    IVF#1 = BFP - ER 12/6, ET 12/11 - 20R, 15M, 14F - 2 transferred, 2 frozen

    Betas: #1(9dp5dt)-50, #2(13dp5dt)-467, #3(16dp5dt)-839, #4(20dp5dt)-1825

    Saw HB - 7w1d, missed m/c - 9w1d

    PAIF/SAIF Welcome
  • image lesalyric:

    It is being presented as living with us "until they get on their feet" which both Randall and I think is a slippery slope.

    Thanks to you girls. I knew I was right to say no but you know how it is when it comes to family, I wanted to get affirmation that I am not being cold-hearted toward them.

    ETA: Tiffany - that's a good idea about the apartment. I should mention that to my grandmother/mom/aunts.

    Its' definitely a slippery slope and what happens when you have to ask them to leave because you just need your home back?  Because they're still family and you want to make sure that every one will still enjoy talking to one another.

  • This is only kind of related, but before my grandmother passed away, I talked to my mom about grandma living with her, instead of in a nursing home.  She said no, because in those situations, there is almost always resent that builds up, because it changes your whole life around.  While I realize that your aunt and cousins are vastly different from an aging relative, I still think it would cause some resent, especially given all the things that you may be facing in the next few months, and the fact that you're newlyweds still.  This is not a time you can get back, and I think that you can say that to them as a reason why not.  Just tell them that you are still newlyweds, and that soon enough there will be kids around, and you won't be going back to a home with just the two of you for several years, so you're trying to make the most of it right now.  I also like Tiffany's idea of everyone pitching in for a place for them.

    I am still sick.  Today is 10 days, and I'm finally back in Dallas, so I'm going to the doctor this afternoon.  Right now, James is at Sherwin Williams buying the paint for the bar - I am so excited! 

  • Our family has always taken in strays, both human and animal. My aunt & cousins lived with us for several years when we were kids, after she left her abusive husband. My babysitter stayed with us for a few weeks (or months? I don't remember) when she had a falling out with her parents. And my friend lived with us for a year when we were in college. But, that was always always my parents' choice. And it was definitely difficult at times. Honestly, it would probably be better for them to be in an apartment as well, it doesn't feel good to have to rely on other people. Maybe they can be near you, so you can still be there for them without everyone being on top of each other in the same house.
  • Leslie, I agree in that I dont think its a good idea.  Having been someone who stayed with family (we never even asked, they insisted) it caused a lot of issues, and if I could go back and do it all over again, I wouldnt have stayed there.
  • Leslie, while I agree it is not a good idea for all the reasons presented here and then some, if your husband is not 100% on board, then that is all the reason you need.  That's just a recipe for disaster.   

    I think I'm going to be ready to go back to work on Tuesday.

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