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Two years ago today was the worst day of my life. (kinda graphic)

Two years ago MH came home to find that our dog had gotten out of her crate and killed our cats. I've been thinking about it a lot lately, and I still don't know if I've come to terms with it. Maybe I haven't gotten over it. Do you ever get over something like that? This "anniversary" has been making me question my ability to be a good mom once LO gets here. Thanks for listening to me cry.
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Re: Two years ago today was the worst day of my life. (kinda graphic)

  • I'm so sorry, I can't even imagine how awful that would be :(
  • What a terrible anniversary. Hugs to you today.
  • It's not like you could control her escaping from her crate, so there's no reason to question your ability to be a good mom. It wasn't your fault! Sometimes horrible things like that happen and it's out of your control.
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  • I'm so sorry. I don't think you ever *have* to get over it. There is no time limit on grief. As far as you being a good mom, I have no doubt in that. 

    You are welcome to come cry here anytime.

    Big e-hugs! And Bently sends sweet puppy kisses.

  • What a traumatic anniversary. I am so sorry you had to deal with it.  I have often wondered how I would feel towards any of my animals if they killed one of my other pets.   I am not sure I would be able to ever move past it...I wouldn't re-home, but I would never feel the same towards them.  Try not to think too much about it and don't feel guilty!  Again, I am so sorry you have to have these memories :(

  • That is a truly horrible memory to have. I don't even know how I'd deal to coming home to a pet that had passed on its own, let alone been killed by another pet. That's a memory that stays with you; no one could ever blame you for not "getting over it." It's just one of those things you learn to live with.

    It absolutely has no bearing on your ability to be a fantastic mother. No matter how domesticated, an animal still has instincts and drives we'll never fully understand. We all know you'll never just leave LO alone with a pet, so it's not like something like this could ever happen to LO. You'll be a wonderful mother. Your thoughfulness on the topic says that all by itself!

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  • I don't think that that is something you can truly get over.  I'm so sorry for a tough anniversary to deal with.  And I honestly believe it has no bearing on what kind of a mom you'll be to LO.  You did everything in your power to protect your animals.  You had no way of knowing that your dog would break out of the crate.  Just having them in the crate shows that you were doing what was best and trying to protect all of your animals.
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  • Hugs. You will be an awesome mom, I promise.
  • I just want to say that I understand what you're going through. Except that it was my parent's dog I had lived with for sometime that busted down a door and viciously attacked my cat. I was outside looking for my escaped cat when it happened..He had to be put to sleep and it is still hard for me. This was just over a year ago.


    I think in time it gets better, some situations just take longer than others. I'm still getting over my cat as well as the loss of my bond with the dog. It hasn't hurt my job as a mom and in fact, my baby is still infatuated with dogs.

    But now we DO know to look a little closer from experience.. Hey, it might even give you an edge up on being a momma. I hope things look up for you and you get to look forward to your time with your baby with excitement, instead of worry. Smile



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