Ok, so you may remember in June, we agreed to let a friend stay with us for a few weeks because she was leaving her husband. Well, a few weeks has turned into a few months. She hasn't been here the entire time - she was gone for 3 weeks in Michigan and she's been gone the last couple of weeks to get her wisdom teeth out and then her husband's, but she's coming back today.
Now, don't get me wrong, she's fine, and I want to help out a friend, but Arek and I are starting to feel like we don't know when she's coming and going and we kind of just want to know it's the three of us again. The utilities shot up during the times she has been here and I did ask her to contribute some money, but I also don't think she understands that when lucie's sleeping, she needs to be quiet. I'm not asking for silence, but banging around and things are waking her up. Not to mention, for some reason, when she's here, Lucie wakes up in the middle of the night.
What do I do? I know she has things to figure out in regards to her husband, but when I tried to find out how much longer she planned to stay, she said their lease was up in December so she was going to ride it out till then and then either find her own apartment or move back to Michigan.
Is it wrong of me to not want her to stay that long? I hate confrontation but I don't know how to confront this situation. I feel insensitive because of the crap she has going on, but at the same time, I feel unhappy in my own home. I also a little irked because I invited a few friends to the Ladies Night Out at the Melting Pot next week for an early bday celebration and she invited 2 other people and didn't seem to think it was an issue. I said yes because I don't know how else to deal with it as I know she's having a tough time, but I didn't want to spend my birthday celebration with people I don't know. We go in vacation in 3 weeks - I'm thinking maybe I just tell her we don't really want her in our house while we're gone and maybe that's our way out? But what if she wants to come back when we get back.
Honestly, I don't know what to do. I feel like a terrible person because I know she has no other friends who have an actual spare room and not a couch for her to sleep on. It's my own fault for even offering in the first place but this is tough!