I'm a regular over on D&R but figured this was a better place to ask
I'm having my housewarming party on Saturday and my aunt and grandma both smoke....bleh. We were new construction and have new EVERYTHING and the thought of the cigarette smell being in the house sends me into a panic. At other family parties, they just smoke freely in the house, so I'm afraid they'd think the same for mine. I feel bad saying "please don't smoke in here" so I was thinking maybe if one of them asks for an ashtray just say it is outside on the patio table? We only have a balcony so it isn't a huge space, but I think I'd be understanding if I was the smoker.
I just don't want to step on any toes-even though they are my family!