I'll try to keep this as concise as I can ...
One of my closest friends is getting married in May. I'm not in the wedding, but they aren't having any attendants, so there's no maid of honor or bridesmaids. I, along with another friend, offered to host a bridal shower for her.
The bride says she's uncomfortable with having a shower because they don't really need anything and don't want to register for gifts.
The friend who was going to co-host the shower with me has suggested that instead of a shower, we just have a classy bachelorette party for her - go out to a fancy dinner, see a show, have drinks after the show, etc. An upscale girls' night out.
My question is ... who would be responsible for covering the costs of such a bachelorette party? Aren't the host(s) responsible to pay? I'm not sure I'm completely down with paying for a fancy dinner out and show tickets for a group of 15-20 people, that could get really expensive really fast.
My co-host thinks it's fine to ask guests to pay their own way, and we can just cover our own costs and the bride's share. But, even if that's OK, my concern is that a lot of the bride's friends work for non-profits and don't make a ton of money. They're a pretty frugal group, and might not be comfortable going to a party that could end up costing them $100 or more.
Anyone have any suggestions on how to celebrate with the bride in a way that doesn't center around showering her with gifts she doesn't want ... and doesn't cost the hosts & guests a ton of money?