We got off to a bad start-no need to leave the board forever. We are actually pretty nice ladies when you don't jump our s*it
I can definitely understand being scared. I was SO scared when DH was transferred: and I only had 3 weeks to find a job AND move our family across the country. We've been there.
So, if you're dead set on moving here, maybe we can help you find a job before you arrive. Most of us on this board are friends IRL too, so we can help you with finding good neighborhoods, etc.
Lets start over. What field are you in? What kinds of industry are you looking to get into? Maybe we can help.