I posted this on the baby board as well.
We have three cats, two of which I have had for 11 years. The boy cat
spends most of his time out side and is well behaved when he is
indoors. The girl cat, his sister has had an on going problem with
going to the bathroom in their boxes. We've tried everything, three
boxes, medication, moving the boxes, giving them a privacy screen. You
name it we've tried. Since she is not using the box she goes other
places, any soft surfaces, like rugs, towels, the doges beds anything
on the ground that is soft.
DH and I have talked at length about what to do because we are at our wits end with cleaning up and trying to prevent this behavior. As of late she has not being taking care of her self. I've bathed her to keep her clean, which is no pick nic. Her chest fur is matted and her feet seem dirty to me. The vet can not pin point anything that is wrong with her.
So tomorrow my MIL is calling our local humane society shelter, which is a no kill shelter, to see if they have any openings. I just can't bring myself to do it and MIL is moving and can not take her two cats with her.
Please don't judge, we just don't know what to do anymore I am conflicted because I love this cat dearly, she was my mom's favorite and though it may sound weird but she kind of started going down hill after my mom passed away.
I know i have tried everything in my power to help her but it's just not working yet at the same time I feel bad no awful about giving her away. I know they will find a home for her and she will be better off because they won't be as frustrated with her as we are.
I just keep crying when I think about not having her around any more.
Sorry this is so long, thank you if you made it this far. And thank you for letting me get this out.