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I'm a little surprised at all the DH's who refuse a Vasectomy

Re: I'm a little surprised at all the DH's who refuse a Vasectomy

  • DH does. Mainly because he is against unnecessary surgery. He is pretty adamant of that decision. He would rather use condoms for the rest of his life.
  • I'm just glad my DH isn't against it in the future. I think it helps that two of his older brothers have had one and said it was very easy and not a big deal at all.?
  • My H and I have vaguely discussed that option as I would rather make it permanent on myself after 3 children, but I know he would prefer not to.  I think he's just scared of surgery.  I know he's scared of needles and blood, so I am actually positive he's scared of surgery.   

    Now, my twin brother on the other hand, just had a vasectomy last month after having 2 children with his wife.  Of course, that rat bastard just left his wife about a month ago as well.

    Honestly, I just think most men are scared of change but especially major, permanent changes to their body...and even more so when it deals with their manhood.

  • Hubster just wants to keep his options open.  If something were to happen to me and he remarried, he might want to have more kids.  I know, it's totally reversible, but I definitely get where he's coming from.
  • I asked DH about this when it was posted... even though we are not even sure if we want children/will assess the situation around 30... I asked him what his thoughts on it were...

     " Um... I don't really want anything messed up down there"

    So I am going to say scared to mess with the manhood.

  • this was something i had never thought about, so I just asked DH if he would get one. He said "it scares me to even think about it. Then I said "don't you think that's fair though, since I have to birth two kids out of my vagina that you take the sacrifice when we don't want any more?" and he said "but you'll already be kinda banged up down there anyways!" Nice.

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  • ha - most men have had circumcisions, too.  So, technically they are a little banged up down there, too.
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     and he said "but you'll already be kinda banged up down there anyways!" Nice.

    LOL!  Literally, out loud. 

  • I'm a little surprised at the men who don't want one b/c they don't want anyone messing with their manhood.  After nine months of pregnancy, delivering a baby or a c-section, and breastfeeding, I would certainly expect my DH to have an adult conversation on what method is best for us when we are done having children.  And his response better not be, no one is going to snip near my stuff.  After all, both and IUD and tubal ligation are invasive to me.  When we had the discussion, it was about what is best for us as a couple, not just about him.
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  • One day my husband told me that as soon as we are done having babies he is having a vasectomy.  So, I guess he'd already made up his mind.  Fine with me!
  • I think it's a personal decision. I don't think it makes them any less of a man if they don't want to do it. It's just like if I didn't want to get to get a similar procedure then I know he wouldn't make me feel like I had to.
  • I asked DH about this when I was reading the original thread the other night, and he said he'd consider getting a vasectomy.  I was glad he's at least open to the idea.  We'll discuss it more when the time comes.  For me, I don't really like the sound of the Essure procedure.  The idea of putting a coil in there and then having tissue grow around it just kinda freaks me out, even though I know there are people who've had it done and are fine.
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  • image pghjen:
    I'm a little surprised at the men who don't want one b/c they don't want anyone messing with their manhood.  After nine months of pregnancy, delivering a baby or a c-section, and breastfeeding, I would certainly expect my DH to have an adult conversation on what method is best for us when we are done having children.  And his response better not be, no one is going to snip near my stuff.  After all, both and IUD and tubal ligation are invasive to me.  When we had the discussion, it was about what is best for us as a couple, not just about him.

    I totally agree with this- I was a little suprised by my DH's answer... then again we are so far away from that decision, I didn't get my feelings hurt. Whenever we get closer to that decision, I fully expect to have a more serious and in depth conversation before so that either one of us do not have unrealistic expectations of what happens after we have children (if we do decide to have children that is)

  • My DH is another one who's adamant about not getting a vasectomy. ?He's already lost one testicle due to complications from an injury, and he's afraid what a V would do to him down there. ?So, I'm not sure what I'm going to do yet, but I haven't given up on the idea of him getting one. ?We haven't even started having kids so it'll be several years before this needs to be decided. ?If I do end up having a c/s I may just do the tubal while they're in there and be done w/ it. ?If not, I'm not sure.
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  • My DH responded with "I don't know...we will discuss that when the time comes. I'm not ready to answer that yet..." I guess with a big prego wife asking him the question (and knowing we both want more than 1) he isn't ready to think beyond this kid being born. One step at a time for him I suppose. Guess I can't fault him- I haven't really thought about that either (although I know I don't want to take BC for years and years- something more perm will have to be done when we are finished with kids). Although I'm already 31 and just having #1. By the time we have 1-2 more, I'll be nearing 40, and know I'll be done with childbearing, regardless of any circumstance that might come up.?
  • image MrsSandro:
    I think it's a personal decision. I don't think it makes them any less of a man if they don't want to do it. It's just like if I didn't want to get to get a similar procedure then I know he wouldn't make me feel like I had to.

    I completely agree with this.

  • Like I said in PP, DH blatenly says he isn't "man enough." He's also only had stiches when he was a football player, no other kind of medical interventions.  I on the other hand have been under the knife more than i care to say...so, eh, we'll just let him stay cut free.
  • not that we have this problem currently - but if we did here's the break down - him - outpatient surgery for a vasectomy, me - major surgery for tubal. yeah, there's the answer for our house.
  • My DH thinks it would hurt like H*ll.  Our BIL got one & it kept getting infected.  He rides motorcycles, so he was kind of rough on it.
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  • DH is afraid his "manhood" would be damaged forever. Men are such babies!!
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