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Is this unreasonable/reasonable?
I have suffered with depression for 15 years now. I have been diagnosed with atypical Autism and Bi-Polar type 2. My wife has a history of suffering from anxiety and depression. I am very concerned that if we were to have a child that they would be extremely likely/be much more predisposed to having similar problems. Is that a fair assumption to make?
I know that at our lowest, we both have great trouble looking after ourselves let alone another human being and even when I am stable I feel that it would be hard on my mental state.
Is it reasonable to not want children for this reasons and is it selfish to "deny" my wife the opportunity of being a Mum (even though she knows how I feel and married me anyway)?
Any thoughts/opinions would be gratefully received.