This is very difficult and embarrassing for me. This is my first job out of college and I've been with them for 7 months already. My hope was originally to stay with them for 2 years so that I could turn my diploma into a degree through correspondence plus start my family before advancing my career.
I have never been one to share - due to my social anxiety disorder. But thanks to some beta blockers I started a few months ago I've been a "chatty Cathy" in the office. My supervisor shares an office with me and we share a lot of life details with each other, she is about 10 years older than me with a house and family and a lot more pay.
Our conversations were not of a very sensitive nature but at the same time I thought there was an understanding that we were not going to use what was said to tarnish the other. For the last little while I've felt like my supervisor has been looking down her nose at me and yesterday my feelings were confirmed. After she left for the day another coworker came into my office and shut the door, she told me that my supervisor had been telling everyone the negative things that I confide with her and is giving everyone the impression that I am just white trash.
A huge part of it is about money, everyone thinks I live in poverty! This is because I shared with her that my husband is unable to work so we have to live off of my salary (which is not enough for 2 people). She knows that we have no savings as there is not enough money in my paycheque to save, that I have a lot of upcoming medical expenses because the insurance plan sucks, and that we are struggling to live paycheque to paycheque. She knows that I can't afford to go out for drinks after work or donate any money to her kid when he fundraises. She doesn't get why I can't afford new winter boots like she gets every year (mine are ready to cause frostbite on my toes) or be able to buy new clothes like her.
Another thing is that everyone thinks I am dirty. I shared with her that my cat was sick for 3 months and urinating on all of our stuff, even though I told her that I was constantly cleaning/washing she clearly thought that my apartment had to smell like cat pee and that my clothes "couldn't be clean". In addition to that there is always a bit of animal fur (cat and dog at home) on my clothing and since her animal doesn't shed at all she doesn't understand how difficult it is to get every hair every day. Ever since I told her she keeps her distance from me in the office (my clothes are always freshly washed) and people have started to do the same.
People also think that I come from a white trash home. My family is middle class and decent working people - on occasion we have issues or drama that most families have. We have often shared stories about our parents and siblings from our pasts, most stories are the funny/dramatic ones that don't paint our relatives in their best light - she basically told everyone that my sister was psychotic, my mother bipolar and my father lazy. She also shared that my husband came from a broken home and that his mother was a hoarder who has a drug problem.
This explains how my coworkers treat me. At first they had always greeted me warmly when I came into work and would make small talk with me during the day and say goodbye at the end. Now I am the one that has to speak to get anyone to say "morning" or "have a good night", no one comes to make small talk with me (they basically ignore me in our office and talk to my supervisor only), and they also send anything that is supposed to come straight to me to my supervisor first.
I don't know what to do or how to handle this. My husband tells me to simply stop sharing information with her and start looking for a new job. I feel like going to the boss (or even her) would do nothing as this is all just gossip plus I know that he now has the same impression of me.