I am so happy I found this board! I read through a lot of the previous posts and feel the same way as a lot of you ladies! A bit of background info: my husband and I are both in our early thirties, very happily married, and seriously questioning if we ever want children. I always thought that I would get that "urge" to have kids like so many other women express, but I still don't feel that urge and I'm not sure if I ever will. Most of our friends already have kids and we are one of the last couples left that are childless. But, here's what I really don't understand: most of our friends that have kids are seriously a shell of their previous selves, the women in particular. Many of our women friends that have become moms seem totally and completely miserable. All they do is complain about the hardships of parenthood, how they have no time for themselves, etc. Many of them always seem angry at their husbands. None of them travel anymore! Many of our friends literally have not taken a vacation since their honeymoons! It's just too "hard" and too "expensive" with kids. So, all in all, I'm a little unsure what the appeal is and why are these women pressuring me to have kids?? My husband and I still travel regularly, we enjoy dinners out, have hobbies, and even have time to have ***gasp** intimate times! From what my women friends tell me, they do not have any of the luxuries in their lives anymore. It seems like they are miserable and just want another member to enter their misery club! Does anyone else feel this way?