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So glad I found this section!
It is so nice to find a forum about marriage, which has a section for childfree couples. My husband and I are childfree by choice. It is too bad that so many people around us think that we will change our minds or we are going through a phase. I used to mention my husband's vasectomy to shut people up but that information is too personal. I also hate it when people assume that I "made" my husband have The Snip. Now I just say that having babies isn't an option for us.
I love children when I can give them back to their parents. I am an indulgent aunt to three girls and my nieces love me to death because I spoil them. I have a medical condition which would be exacerbated by pregnancy and postpartum. I wanted children when I was younger until I worked as a nanny. I enjoy having a lot of freedom, a quiet home and lots of time for my husband. I am not interested in experiencing pregnancy or childbirth. My abusive childhood taught me that sometimes children cause too much stress and unhappiness; I know my mother would not have been so violent and angry if she didn't have four kids. Lastly, I see too many women who feel the need to stay in unhappy marriages because of their children. I do not want to be permanently tied to a man with kids for that reason; I want to continue staying with my husband because I choose to rather than feel obligated should our marriage go sour.
If you choose not to have children, what made you decide not to? I'm just curious and I thought it would be an interesting discussion. No offence intended.