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Newbie Newb Here

Hi! As the title says I'm a newbie newb here. lol I just thought I would introduce myself. I am AD and DH was until we got married (literally the morning we got married he got out of the AF and that evening became a dependent lol) Is anyone else AD? If you aren't, how do you handle being a dependent?

Re: Newbie Newb Here

  • Hi and welcome.  I am prior service Army Reserve.  There are a number of ladies around who are AD, Reserve, Guard or veterans.  The board is a bit slow lately, but hopefully a few of them will chime in.  

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  • I am just a dependent, but honestly I don't feel as though my life is that different now, despite moving across the country. We don't live on base and I only go on to go to the commisary, library, and gym

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    I am a dependent right now, but am in the recruiting process to get a scholarship for the AF. If/when I get that I will be on reserve status until I am done with school and I will be AD as a psychologist when school is done!

    ETA: I am not sure how I "handle" being a dependent, not sure what you're pulling for with that, but I'll try to answer. right now I don't live with H, I moved away from what base we were at in order to go to school, and he will be joining me later this month. I am a fairly independent person (although I love my H and miss him horribly) but when he was gone for trainings, it was never that big of a deal. We have lived on base, and I really didn't notice it too much because I worked and didn't really talk much to neighbors, other than occasional polite conversation while walking the dog and such. We are going to move to the "on-base" housing when H moves here, but its not actually on the base. For most of MH's career, he has had a standard day, with some occasions where he needed to go in nights/weekends (basically emergency type situation) so it really hasn't been too big of a deal for us. 

    This isn't too helpful, now that I am reading it. Did you have specific questions about "handling" things?
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  • I just joined the Guard, and I'll be leaving for Basic/OCS/BOLC pretty soon. 

    It's definitely weird for H that he's going to be the one at home, handling everything, the dogs, finances, etc. He'll do fine, but he has always been the one going off to training/deployment. He works crazy long hours, but he's home every night because he's on a non deployable duty now.So it's an adjustment for him, even though he is crazy supportive.  
    I've seen a lot of military surprise homecomings. It wouldn't work on me. I always have my back to the corner and my face to the door. Looking for terrorists, criminals, various other threats, and husbands.
  • I'm AD Army and hubster used to be too. We joke that he's teh ARmy wife and has the hardest job in the Army. But actually, he's a wonderful stay-at-home hunsband (my postings have all been to areas where civilian employment opportunities suck). He'll have dinner ready when I get home or draw up a bath on a rough day for me. And, since the military does pay nicely despite what everyone says, when we have kiddos, he'll be a stay-at-home dad.
  • DH and I are both USAF veterans. I got out for medical reasons and his job was eliminated. He misses it though and is considering joining the Army.
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