I can't believe I am posting this here...but I am at a total loss! I thought we reached a level of understanding....but he is starting to get upset again.
I have been with my boyfriend for a year...I am also 6 months pregnant. (Yup...big, unplanned surprise) We have been living together for a few months now. His big issue with our relationship is that I do not cuddle him enough at night. If he wakes up and sees I am facing the other direction (when you are pregnant you HAVE to sleep on your side--no sleeping on back or stomach) he gets very upset and will wake me up...usually with a sarcastic remark.
At first when this became a big issue (about the time we moved in together) I almost laughed at him. I have never heard of a grown man making an issue out of NOT being cuddled while he sleeps. I usually cuddle with him while we fall asleep (and while we watch TV before bed each evening) but apparently this is not enough.
I have tried to logically explain to him that I have to sleep on both sides because my hips ache if I lay on one side too long. (He thinks this is just an excuse to turn away from him) I have tried pointing out that HE sleeps with his back towards me some of the night also. He tells me that isn't 'the same thing'
My hips have really been bothering me over the last month (normal pregnancy symptom) and he has stopped grumbling over this issue....I was hoping we were getting past it. The last couple nights he has started grumbling about my 'coldness' once again.
This usually leads to far bigger issues....arguments that can go on for days. I am NOT kidding...He will get THAT angry over this issue. I am exhausted just thinking about what lays ahead if I don't 'solve' this problem immediately.
NONE of this seems normal to me....it seems childish and totally needy. I have tried every possible approach with him so far....I am running out of patience.