I am not sure what happened this past year, but I feel like nearly all of my friends have become total flakes. It's been happening with bigger events, like my birthday, an election party, and gallery shows. One by one, people drop like flies. People whom I've relied on for years, and whom I have been there for through thick and thin. It's not just with big events, it's with regular plans to get together too.
This past weekend I had a blow out with one of my oldest friends because she's cancelled on me about 4 times now, and I finally decided to speak up and she got crazy defensive. People just don't seem to take their commitments as seriously anymore. It's not even just one person, it's almost all of my friends. I am trying to figure out if it's something I'm doing, if perhaps I'm being too much of a doormat, and letting these flake outs slide without proper display of my disappointment. Usually my response is just "No worries! We'll plan for another time". But it's getting to the point where I'm losing my patience, and feeling like my time isn't valued by other people. It also puts a real damper on my self esteem.
Does anyone else have this issue? How do you address this without coming off as judgemental or getting into a fight over it? I just want respect, and to have the same reliability that I give to be given in return. It sucks to feel like I can't count on any of my friends.