So I have been with my now husband for over three years. I met his mother about a year into the relationship and she was not impressed by me from the get go due to my tattoos. (Which my husband explained to her before she saw them that he loved them and she wasn't to comment at all).
Anyways....I have tried my hardest to reach out and spend time with his family since we were living close to them. Everytime I was around his mother, she was a complete witch to me. She would say little comments that no one else would even take a second thought on that I knew were directed towards me. At the Wedding, she came the day before to help set up. She walks in and immediately starts to critique everything in the room, the tables are too close, are you sure want to put this here, etc....My husband took my side on all the decorations and she didn't get her way one bit. Then it comes down to the rehersal. When someone says that Justin (my husband) is going to start the ceremony at the altar she broke down in tears. She threw a 2 year old fit because 'it was customary' that Justin walk her down the aisle. I had never heard of the groom walking his mother down the aisle, but decided that I wasn't going to fight her on it. After we completed the first round of the rehersal, his mother start to throw a fit again because she wanted Justin to come BACK and get her after the ceremony was complete. This is something I couldn't give in to because after that he is my husband and no longer her baby. (ALSO, she has another son who was present and a groomsman at the wedding).
The day of the wedding, someone comes and tells me she was at a bar drinking before she came up to the venue about an hour before the ceremony. She comes in and start changing the way my hair looks and trying to put my veil on me, which I had decided it was too windy outside to wear. I walk out of the closet that had me getting ready in (exaggeration) to grab a breather and notice there are people in the reception hall, people I have never seen before?? ALSO, his mother had been passing out glasses of wine BEFORE the ceremony. ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?! So anyways I begin to ask them to start moving to the ceremony so we can begin shortly (which I didn't get any of it out) and his mother comes pretty much running across the room and puts her finger in my face and yelling that this is not a job for the bride and I needed to get back in my room. This of coarse upsets me to the point of tears....so I run back to my room and try to get the girls to fix my make up. She comes in to apologize, but we could all tell that it was not sincere.
The small digs and critisizes haven't stopped since and she doesn't invite me to any family functions.... Now how am I suppose to live the rest of my life dealing with this woman?? There is a part of me that wants to sit down and have a one on one and tell her how I feel and another that says I will just send Justin to all his family functions alone and not attend....This is horrible! HELP!