I feel so stressed out about my life right. The source of my stress is my mother-in-law. I recently had a baby, he is four months old right now. I have a full time teaching job. I want to spend every minute I have with him. I have tension towards my mother-in-law because for the last two weeks of my pregnancy she would call three times a day. I would constantly tell her that I was getting woke up and didn't want phone calls unless we called out. My husband spoke with her. She still didn't listen. I've also recently had a diagnosis of fibromyalgia which I've been struggling with for ten years, since I got mononucleosis. I'm really tired all the time and my joints ache so bad. My husband's family lives near by. They want to see our son, Trent. Meanwhile, after Trent was born, she would stop in a couple times a week without asking. If I didn't answer the door, she would try the doorknob. If the doorknob was locked, she would peek in our windows. The first window is the living room. I only breastfeed my child; I pump during the day. I hate pumping. Every minute I get I want to nurse him, not give him a bottle. As a result, I run around my house without clothes on. She babysits him once a week on her day off to allow for more time with him. Meanwhile, I miss my parents. They live two hours away. I try to spend a weekend a month with them, so they can see the baby and visit. They live on a lake, which I love waterskiing, swimming, and all lake activities. My husband tries to compare our families. He states that if we spend a weekend with my parents, then we should stay overnight at his mom's house one weekend a month. Meanwhile, we still have to accomodate time for his dad (his parent's are divorced), his grandparents, and my grandparents. My grandparents also live an hour and a half away. All of his family is within ten miles. His mom lives in Woodbury, VT. We live in Hardwick, VT. I want to move to Danville, VT. It's the same distance from Woodbury to Danville as Woodbury to Hardwick, except that the Hardwick location is one mile from her job. She said she won't babysit if we live there, even though it's the same distance. My parents are willing to travel 65 miles one way twice a week to babysit so they can see their grandson. He feels we don't see his family enough. I don't know how to invite them at night, because I get so tired. I go to bed at seven and so does my baby. All their family events start late, so I can't attend them due to my tiredness. She won't start them earlier. I also have some resentment because a when Trent was three months old, my cat whom I've had since I was twelve years old (I'm twenty-five now) had to get put down because of cancer. They got a new kitten. She stated "At least this one won't die right away." I didn't respond because I was appaled and didn't want to be rude. She then answered "Well is it going to die right away?" "No, it's four months old I said." I get very annoyed with her because of her actions, comments, and insistance on seeing him. She always makes comments like when we were at her mom's house (my husband's grandparents) "I'll hold this baby because you won't let me hold that one." refering to his cousin's baby. Meanwhile, she did hold him for a while and I wanted a turn since it is my baby. It's really affecting our marriage. My husband wants to see his family. I don't want the baby gone for longer than two hours due to breastfeeding. I want to see my family, but he says it's not fair if we don't spend the same amount of time at his familys. Often, his brother's kids are at the house and the noise bothers me. The fibromyalgia really is straining my body, stress, and tiredness level. I'm really worried I won't be able to work because of having to dedicate so much time to other things. If I spend a weekend day at his family's house, I need to spend the whole next day resting and recovering and can barely sit up to feed the baby. Sometimes, I even feed the baby lying down (in fact at night I always do). How do I divide the time between the families fairly without being annoyed and overstressed along with overtired, and still have time for my husband and kid?