We have been married less than 6 months. We had never lived together before we were married, though we were both good friends all through school. I knew that it was going to be difficult given his upbringing. He is one of 3 boys and has a mother that does EVERYTHING for them. Though their mother really doesn't do a whole lot of cleaning, cooking, etc. herself either. I realize that everyone is raised differently, and has a different way that they live, or want to live. My mom and dad seperated when I was 7 and she worked 3 jobs at times to raise my brother and I. I have a good sense of hard work and am very independent. I have worked since I was 16, he never had a job until after college. I am a very clean and tidy person and he was raised the complete opposite. We both work full time. I work a later shift, so when I get home and 7 in the evening I still have to do dished, fix dinner, and anything else that needs done. When I get home and he's been home for 3 or 4 hours and has done nothing and I trip over XBox cords, I get very irritated. I've tried talking to him about it and it'll help for a week of so then he just reverts back. I've even tried persuading him with sex, except that I feel less attracted to him and have no desire to have sex because I get no help. He doesn't seem to understand why I am upset or why I feel this way. It's just very frustrating, and I hate feeling this way. I know I can't be the only person dealing with these issues. So ANY advice would be appreciated!!