New relationships are hard! He has a 14 year old son, soon 15 year old. that I adore! (I was a single parent myself. However, my son is 21 years old, out on his own!)
I don't know if my maternal instincts are kicking into high gear! But when it comes to his son, I tend to make mistakes...that anger my fi. I need to learn to step back and remember that he is the parent. He has the final say...that I need to ask permission. Not get Jakes hopes up...then have his Dad tear them down...because of my mistake!
I apologized to Jake. Explained to him that I should have talked to his father before mentioning it him. he seemed to take it pretty well! I told him maybe next year, we could do what we planned.
I have never been in a realtionship where a man has taken full responsibilty of a child. He takes financial, emotional, cooks, cleans, school work, and even Jakes future plans. Jake gets straight A's. The missing link in his life...Jakes mother wants nothing to do with him. When she does talk to him. she tells him about the new baby that she had. The one that Jake has never met! Then he becomes an emotional wreck!