Well it was all my fault when I told my husband, as part of my new honesty campaign, that my sister said some unfavorable stuff about us to our cousin. But meanwhile, after thinking about it, instead of nailing my sister on it, I told her that we both needed to start marketing each other better - and that I've said crap about her too - and listed all of the things I typically say (honesty policy).
She thought it was a mature outlook and we agreed to only say nice things about each other to other people from here on. Very healthy.
However, my hubby never got over it. So now she's not allowed over when he's home. Plus, we have a four month old so sis wants to be more involved. Hubby? wants her explicitly less involved.
Now my hubby wants to run off to his mother's in Maine for Baby's First Christmas, which will break my sister's heart to no be included (she'll have nowhwere to go). (and his mother is one we just found last year - he was adopted and she is biological - so we have a good relationship, but it's not like it's "home" for him)
How can I fix this? I've tried asking my husband to give her the same break that I did... and then if she breeches it... then he's justified. But he won't budge. I mean he will. not. budge. My sis and I are finally on the same page. But he doesn't ever want to see her again. I kind of feel like he's being immature and I'm on her side. But then everyone else says, "You have to be on your husband's side." Argh!