DH and I have been married for a little over 2 years. We have a pretty strong relationship, get along well with each other's parents, and don't argue often. But, as much as we love each other, we don't have a lot in common. I am extremely introverted because of an anxiety disorder, and I don't go outside much because I have severe excema. But DH is very outgoing, loves the outdoors, and can make friends with anyone, anywhere. We love the differences we have. He helps me feel more comfortable in my own skin and get out and meet people, and I help mellow him out and learn to enjoy the simple things (his words).
The problem we have is that since we don't have much in common, I feel like we don't ever have anything to talk about. If I try to tell him about a good book I have read lately, he will listen, but I don't really get anything back from him because he hates reading. Or if he tries to tell me about a new car that he read about online, I will just get bored of the conversation because I don't really like cars... Not to mention he is so smart that a lot of what he tries to share with me goes way over my head. He is studying technical engineering and structural design in school, with a minor in physics; so when he tries to tell me about that kind of stuff, I feel stupid. I think he can tell, because he stopped talking about it. When we go out to dinner we just sit there and stare at eat other... But when we are out with friends I feel like we always have a great time. Like, we are great together around other people, but not when we're alone. We have tried doing new things together, but it seems like when we do, one of us excels, so the other one doesn't want to do it anymore (we are both competetive), or it falls through for some reason (we started taking dance lessons last year and showed up at the studio one day to find that it closed down!!).
My question is: if you were in this situation, how would you bridge the gap?