My DH is very touchy-feely. My body is very sensitive, so sometimes when he does touch me, It's a natural reaction to pull away because I simply don't want to be touched at that moment. When I say touching, I mean he will either (gently) grab my breasts, or run finger down my sex randomly during the day. It's hard to explain to him what I just mentioned, that I'm sensitive at that moment and don't want to be touched, yet he still gets a little defensive. I hope he's not taking it too personal because ("in the bedroom") I do love to be touched. But just because he's my husband doesn't mean he's entitled to touch me privately at any time he wants to.
Not going to get into detail, but I had been sexually abused when I was very young, and I'm wondering if this pulling away reaction may have a little to do with it. (FYI, I've gone through years of therapy to move on from the abuse, and no longer need it.)
Anyways, correct me if I'm wrong for pulling away. However, if there's anything I can say to him to maybe help him understand this reaction better, I could use the help.