I've been trying to write this posts for months, but haven't been able to put it into words, but after tonight, I need to know how to deal with this.
For the past six months or so, T has been noticing race. He stares at all the black men that we see (some of the kids at daycare have black dads that do drop off and pick up). One of the dad's has commented on it (I didn't really realize it, but T was staring over my shoulder). He laughed it off, because he had crazy hair and a long beard, but I've noticed that he won't take his eyes off another dad who is black (and very clean shaven).
Tonight at the store, a family with two members with disabilities walked into the aisle that we were in. T kept staring at them, and started pointing and saying "No!" I shushed him and put his arm down. One of the sons was making some noises and T started to freak out- whining and crying and staring. I tried to get him interested in the things on the shelf, and kept putting his arm down, but it really upset me- I didn't know what to do, and didn't want to be "that" person.
I don't know what to do. I don't want to not talk about it, but I don't know how to do it in an age-appropriate way. I haven't noticed him acting different around children his own age, but still, I don't want this to ever be an issue.
EDIT: He's almost two. He hasn't been pointing out any differences, but he is acting different.