almost everyone has certain things that while not a big deal just get under their skin (or at least I certainly do) :)
I was talking to my husband about if and how he responds when someone you care about continually (unknowingly) presses these buttons. He said he usually just does nothing and gets over it.
That is what I have been doing for years as well... but for some reason something that my MIL and nanny are saying is just bothering me so much that the more I ignore it, the more it is making me upset (and it seems like a waste of time to worry about something that I know would make me feel better if I asked them to stop saying it).
It is petty... they are not going to understand why it bothers me (as it does not bother 99.9% of other people in the world)... so I feel stupid saying anything.
SO... if you have a unique hot button issue... have you ever told someone what they were saying bothers you and how did you do it in a nice way that did not offend them (but made them stop)?