I'm looking for some advice and outside perspectives.
DH and I decided that it was good for me to quit my job in December of this year and start going to school full time in 2013. I plan to get my Bachelor's in Accounting and potentially sit for the CPA exam. I figure this will take approximately 5-6 year to accomplish. That would make me about 32 and DH about 36.
We want to buy a house, but are content to wait until I'm making the big CPA bucks so that we can buy in a neighborhood/town that we really like.
The problem is that we are undecided on children. We have been talking about it a lot lately, we think we want children, we think that we would be great parents, but in my mind, if we were to have any kids, we would have to do it now rather then later... Right now I'm collecting GE credits and lower division units at the community college level. When I transfer to SFSU, I will be collecting my upper division units, trying to get internship opportunities at one of the Big 4 accounting firms and studying for the CPA exam.
If we had a baby now, by the time I was going through all of the really important parts of my education, it would ideally be between 3 and 5 years old. I think that would be better then having one while trying to start at a new, demanding job or while studying for the CPA exam.
As far as child care during the time that DH is at work and I have classes, my sister is willing to watch my hypothetical baby, she is currently a stay at home mom with no plans of working in the near future. I also have a friend that is currently pregnant and may not be going back to work after she has her son in June.
DH's work schedule would allow him to work the 7 - 4 shift, which means that he would be home by 4:30.
I think that this would really be the best way to do it, but it feels overwhelming. For the last two years I have been telling myself that we aren't going to have kids and mentally listing all the bad things about kids, but I totally and irrationally want to have a baby with my DH. *sigh*
That of course is another problem I'm having. I enjoy my nice quiet house, I enjoy sleeping in and having buckets of time for playing video games and messing around on the internet. I don't know if I am up to the full time demands of taking care of a helpless person. But I feel like I will be missing out on something if I don't have kids. I won't ever be able to relate to all the parents who talk about how wonderful it is to be a parent or about how proud they are of their kid for XYZ reason.
Sorry that this is so long and probably seems confusing... I'm trying to type all this out in between answering phone calls and handling visitors.
I appreciate any help and advice that anyone can give.