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Dear Community,

Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.

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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.

No one on this board :(

I so wish this board was way more exciting! We are a newlywed lesbian couple who aren't ready for children so the bump boards aren't exactly what we are looking for. I just feel a little out of place writing on the other boards with straight people because we have a completely different relationship dynamic than them. I feel like I have to walk on eggshells and type "partner" instead of wife so I don't offend anyone. If anyone else is interested, lets get this board back up! 

Re: No one on this board :(

  • I agree with you about not being comfortable on other boards.  I would like to see more activity here too.
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  • This board used to be more active but we all have moved over to the LGBT parenting board. There are some posters there that are not pregnant and do not have children yet. I'm sure no one would mind if you guys posted over there. So if you want feel free to come on overSmile Also you may want to check out some of the other boards, I've posted on a few others and the ladies have all been welcoming. I use the term wife and refer to her often and no one has ever said anything to make me feel uncomfortable.

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  • Although we're now at the TTC point, I know what you mean about feeling uncomfortable posting over there when you're not ready for kids yet.  I lurked for a LONG time before DW and I got married, and even then only hesitatingly started posting.  However, there are several people who are pre-kids (including only contemplating) so feel free to come on over.  Of course it's always great to have more conversation and online presence, so perhaps this board can be revived too??
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    Although we're now at the TTC point, I know what you mean about feeling uncomfortable posting over there when you're not ready for kids yet.  I lurked for a LONG time before DW and I got married, and even then only hesitatingly started posting.  However, there are several people who are pre-kids (including only contemplating) so feel free to come on over.  Of course it's always great to have more conversation and online presence, so perhaps this board can be revived too??

    I lurk all the time. The stories inspire me. It's not exactly that i'm not ready for kids, it's more WE aren't ready for kids.. financially and just where we are in our lives. I would just feel a bit weird posting when I am not actually TTC. I just would love to have other lesbian or gay couples around to talk to when we're going through our "newlywed" problems lol. Not that we have a lot but somewhere to go to talk about my "amazing" MIL that I adore haha. 

    Or even just some like minded friends to socialize with who get what different things i'm going through! 

    I hope we can get this board back up!  

  • I agree!!! I was on the board when it was WAAAYY more active. Started on the Knot and moved here. Since we are also not ready (in some of the same ways you expressed) I havent posted on the Bump either. I agree that  its a little weird.

  • I am one of the regular posters on The Bump (and do have kids) but honestly, we would welcome you over there. Yes, a lot of the conversations have to do with kids - but many do not (the reason we moved over there was because some of our regular posters weren't able to log on here - but were able to log on over there.)

    We've all been newlyweds and been through adjustment periods in our relationship and would be happy to talk about that is well. While many of us are moms (or trying to be moms), we are also just wives and women who identify as GLBT.

    Come on over!

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    I am one of the regular posters on The Bump (and do have kids) but honestly, we would welcome you over there. Yes, a lot of the conversations have to do with kids - but many do not (the reason we moved over there was because some of our regular posters weren't able to log on here - but were able to log on over there.)

    We've all been newlyweds and been through adjustment periods in our relationship and would be happy to talk about that is well. While many of us are moms (or trying to be moms), we are also just wives and women who identify as GLBT.

    Come on over!

    Thank you to everyone on TheBump for being so inviting! I might just have to pop over and become a regular. I'm sure I could offer some insight to the kids posts too since i'm a nanny :)  I do love TheNest though so it would be great if we could get this back up. Hopefully people will start posting a lot more! 

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    image 2brides:

    I am one of the regular posters on The Bump (and do have kids) but honestly, we would welcome you over there. Yes, a lot of the conversations have to do with kids - but many do not (the reason we moved over there was because some of our regular posters weren't able to log on here - but were able to log on over there.)

    We've all been newlyweds and been through adjustment periods in our relationship and would be happy to talk about that is well. While many of us are moms (or trying to be moms), we are also just wives and women who identify as GLBT.

    Come on over!

    Thank you to everyone on TheBump for being so inviting! I might just have to pop over and become a regular. I'm sure I could offer some insight to the kids posts too since i'm a nanny :)  I do love TheNest though so it would be great if we could get this back up. Hopefully people will start posting a lot more! 

    Glad to see you over there.  But if you want to get things going here I think you might have to start some posts with conversation topics.  :)   

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  • why do you all need your own board when all gays do is complain about not having equal rights and being sought out as different.  if you dont want to be labled as different than just post in the regular boards. 
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    why do you all need your own board when all gays do is complain about not having equal rights and being sought out as different.  if you dont want to be labled as different than just post in the regular boards. 

    Maybe because it's people like you who stereotype "all gays" like you just did? Not only do you have disrespectful opinions, but you had to actively seek out a board to tell them so? Everyone has something that makes them feel awkward, especially when it's hard to relate to others to start with. Heck, my brother in law is gay and after 4 years of everyone knowing, he still barely talks about his boyfriend to our family. If it's hard to talk to your own FAMILY wouldn't it be a little understandable to be nervous about bringing it up to a bunch of online people who, let's face it, can be a lot more judgmental? As for the "why do you all need your own board" that's just plain ridiculous to say, all of these boards are specialized for different groups of people. That's how we relate to each other! That's like going to TheBump and saying "well why do the 3-6 mos, and the 0-3 mos get their own boards? They're both about kids!" Everyone needs a place to feel at ease, and big friggin' whoop if it's a certain board. Either way, no matter what, no one needs someone to stand over them and shove their nose in the dirt over how they feel. Sorry if I'm stepping on any toes, but it's ignorance like this that leads to prejudice and bigotry in the first place.

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    image citygirl311:
    why do you all need your own board when all gays do is complain about not having equal rights and being sought out as different.  if you dont want to be labled as different than just post in the regular boards. 

    Maybe because it's people like you who stereotype "all gays" like you just did? Not only do you have disrespectful opinions, but you had to actively seek out a board to tell them so? Everyone has something that makes them feel awkward, especially when it's hard to relate to others to start with. Heck, my brother in law is gay and after 4 years of everyone knowing, he still barely talks about his boyfriend to our family. If it's hard to talk to your own FAMILY wouldn't it be a little understandable to be nervous about bringing it up to a bunch of online people who, let's face it, can be a lot more judgmental? As for the "why do you all need your own board" that's just plain ridiculous to say, all of these boards are specialized for different groups of people. That's how we relate to each other! That's like going to TheBump and saying "well why do the 3-6 mos, and the 0-3 mos get their own boards? They're both about kids!" Everyone needs a place to feel at ease, and big friggin' whoop if it's a certain board. Either way, no matter what, no one needs someone to stand over them and shove their nose in the dirt over how they feel. Sorry if I'm stepping on any toes, but it's ignorance like this that leads to prejudice and bigotry in the first place.

     

    Thank you. She's been posting on the bump and being a bully over there as well. The board is here so we can have a safe place to talk about our own stuff. Sometimes, straight people don't understand the dynamic and it's great to be able to talk things through with other people of the LGBT community. Get over yourself and find your own board.  

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    image MothyrGrimm:

    image citygirl311:
    why do you all need your own board when all gays do is complain about not having equal rights and being sought out as different.  if you dont want to be labled as different than just post in the regular boards. 

    Maybe because it's people like you who stereotype "all gays" like you just did? Not only do you have disrespectful opinions, but you had to actively seek out a board to tell them so? Everyone has something that makes them feel awkward, especially when it's hard to relate to others to start with. Heck, my brother in law is gay and after 4 years of everyone knowing, he still barely talks about his boyfriend to our family. If it's hard to talk to your own FAMILY wouldn't it be a little understandable to be nervous about bringing it up to a bunch of online people who, let's face it, can be a lot more judgmental? As for the "why do you all need your own board" that's just plain ridiculous to say, all of these boards are specialized for different groups of people. That's how we relate to each other! That's like going to TheBump and saying "well why do the 3-6 mos, and the 0-3 mos get their own boards? They're both about kids!" Everyone needs a place to feel at ease, and big friggin' whoop if it's a certain board. Either way, no matter what, no one needs someone to stand over them and shove their nose in the dirt over how they feel. Sorry if I'm stepping on any toes, but it's ignorance like this that leads to prejudice and bigotry in the first place.

     

    Thank you. She's been posting on the bump and being a bully over there as well. The board is here so we can have a safe place to talk about our own stuff. Sometimes, straight people don't understand the dynamic and it's great to be able to talk things through with other people of the LGBT community. Get over yourself and find your own board.  

    No problem, I'm the one my BIL comes to to talk so I know how hard it can be just trying to relate. Good luck with everything, and I hope she leaves you alone!
  • I'm going to speak up. I like most of the other boards on this site, and have never felt awkward. Sure if it's your first time posting you'll have to explain but very rarely do I run into such pushy people as the poster above.

    This board used to be much busier, but since then we have moved to the LGBT parenting board. Not because everyone was having kids, but b/c some were having families, others were fostering, and specifically BlueDaisy couldnt access this site at work anymore just the bump site. Furthermore, we can start posting on here again if you'd like, but you may need to initiate threads. DW and I have been married for 3 years and are only 22 and 26 so babies arent in our plan, but I do enjoy both boards. 

    I hope you will too. 

     

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  • aawwww I am late to this one!

     Maybe b/c I am from NJ and I was a "straight" nestie before I was a gay one-but I am fine posting on other boards! I recently came out to my local and they were so supportive.

     I do wish this one was more active though!

  • I myself am not a lesbian, but my sister FINALLY came out last year and is in a long term relationship with her GF. They just moved in together this month, so even though they are not married, they are playing house. Maybe I should have her join the nest. I understand what you mean about offending people, but if you decide to post on other boards, don't feel bad or worry about how others are. If they have a problem, they will just have to get over it.
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    I'm going to speak up. I like most of the other boards on this site, and have never felt awkward. Sure if it's your first time posting you'll have to explain but very rarely do I run into such pushy people as the poster above.

    This board used to be much busier, but since then we have moved to the LGBT parenting board. Not because everyone was having kids, but b/c some were having families, others were fostering, and specifically BlueDaisy couldnt access this site at work anymore just the bump site. Furthermore, we can start posting on here again if you'd like, but you may need to initiate threads. DW and I have been married for 3 years and are only 22 and 26 so babies arent in our plan, but I do enjoy both boards. 

    I hope you will too. 

     

     

    Sorry I was creeping your board, I stumbled on it by accident and got curious after I saw how few posts there are. I had to chuckle when I saw the note about why BlueDaisy switched boards. I ran into the same problem in nursing school. The network at the school house blocked quite a few "good" websites, and we had to get creative also. Way to go for thinking out of the box!

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  • I'm new to this board, so hi! My partner and I recently got engaged - yay! - and are working on having our first baby. I guess I could post on the bump too, but saw this thread and thought I'd post. We're also planning our wedding (or whatever it will manifest itself as), so it's a busy time! Looking forward to meeting people and hearing new stories. :)
  • I just joined thenest and was glad to find a LGBT thread! It is a safe space, I agree.

    My partner and I have been engaged for a year as of next Saturday actually (whee!) and our wedding is May 26, 2012.

    We also just put a bid in for a home (we have been together for 3 years), so this is new and exciting and a bit scary, y'know?

    Looking forward to meeting people, as I know absolutely no one.
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  • Well I just posted to the one other posting on this board that I wished it were more lively here. Maybe I should think up a good thread to start. Maybe we can get some activity going again!
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