What does it mean to "work on yourself"? And to "know what you want & need" out of life & a relationship?
STBXH was MIA for the last year of our marriage w/ working full-time + taking night classes. I spent TONS of time alone, developing my hobbies & interests, spending time w/ friends, deepening my sense of self. As a person I feel confident & feel like I know myself very well.
Coming out of my marriage, I have learned what I want & need from a relationship: stability, someone responsible w/ finances, doesn't use drugs/have addiction issues. I felt like a mother to my husband in my marriage.
Since ending my marriage, I've made a list of all the things I want to do in my life: places I want to visit, goals & dreams that I have for my personal life as well as my career, etc.
So I guess my question is, what advice do you have for someone recently coming out of of marriage? What "things" do I need to work on?