I will DD this, fair warning. I don't want to leave any sort of trail to this individual.
I have long suspected one of my cousins is gay. A few weeks ago, my brother overheard him having a conversation with a friend about a relationship he had with another man that didn't end the way he hoped it would.
I cannot imagine he's come out to his parents. They are conservative Christians, and would find it difficult, to say the last. He's also very close to our grandparents, who already call him a "fairy" because he works in fashion and has some slightly effeminate characteristics.
We are all going to be at a family reunion soon (family spread out from Florida to Seattle), and I would like to somehow let him know that I am on his side ... as are my parents (his aunt & uncle) and my siblings (we have all separately arrived at the same conclusion). But I don't know how to do that, since he hasn't come out to any of us yet.
I don't want to force him to come out to me (because it's really none of my business what he does); and I don't want to make him feel like he's got a big gay spotlight over him the whole weekend ... like if I can see it, anyone in our family can.
I'd just like to find a way to say, "Hey, you're OK; I'm here if you want to talk."
Is there a good way to do that, at all? Or is it better that I keep my mouth shut (unless I actually hear one of my families' homophobic comments, in which case I will gleefully go ape-shizzle!)?