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Let's talk about engagement rings.

Do you think they're replaceable?

I got into a conversation (it wasn't even a debate) with a newly engaged friend and her FB friends about what she should do with her new ring while she went on vacation.  I said I leave mine in a safe at home, but if she wants to take it, leave it in a safe at the hotel.  Worst comes to worst, it's jewelry.  It's replaceable.

Apparently, many people disagreed.  Memories, sentiment, all that jazz.  My insurance company and Zales both agree with me.  Friend said she and H (now) fiance designed it together, so no, it's not replaceable.  I still hold my opinion that metal and a diamond can be purchased again. 

 

On a side note about same friend, all her recent facebook photos have been of her holding her hand up, making for awkward pictures.  I get it, you have a giant ring.  I get it, you're engaged.  I might have to hide her until a few months after her wedding.

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  • Since my "engagement ring" is actually a 3-stone ring my husband gave me for our 2nd wedding anniversary I would say it is replaceable. I would be deeply upset because I love it but it is replaceable.

     

    I would definitely hide her for a while. 

  • I think they're replaceable.  DH and I decided to not get a wedding band so my engagement ring doubles as both.

    I never take it off even when traveling.  If something were to happen DH and I would just pick another one. 

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  • Ha, well obviously from my post I DO believe that they are replaceable. What is not replaceable is that feeling, that rush, and the memories I have. I have pictures, I'm okay with a different ring.

    USAA puts a price on an object that is monetary. I add in sentiment and feelings, but at the end of the day it is just a piece of metal and stones. When we found out that USAA had denied our claim C told me what he looked for in my first ring, and what caused him to choose it. 

    I was wandering around online and found the one I got today, and he saw it and said he loved it. So we made the choice to buy it together. He got down on one knee and asked "I hope you would say yes again, because I would ask a million times as long as you said yes every time." 

    A piece of metal will never be able to give me that kind of love, it's merely a symbol of it. 

  • Yes I believe they're replaceable. But then again I'm not very sentimental about those kind of things. I would be very disappointed if I lost mine but as long as it's covered under insurance I could get over it.
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  • I have to admit that I would be devastated if I lost my engagement/wedding rings.  Not because of losing the diamonds (that can be replaced) but because of the sentiment.  Every time I look at my rings I think of the day my husband proposed and the day we got married (my god I sound so sappy).  If I lost my engagement ring it would be hard for me to replace, because I would always think of it as that, a replacement.

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  • I'd be disappointed that I lost the "first" ring but I'd be over it as soon as I got the new one.

    Tim thought he lost his wedding band 2 hours into our honeymoon last month.  I thought he was going to cry.  I told him it wasn't a big deal it was only $60 to replace it and he said it was more the sentiment behind it.

    It doesn't void your marriage if you lose it so it's not a huge deal to me.

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  • I think ultimately it is replaceable, I guess, but its also very sentimental.  I've taken mine off once in almost 3 years of marriage and that was when I had emergency surgery.  M is the same way.  He's never taken his off (as far as he says) the entire time. 

     

  • I agree with you that the actual jewelry is replaceable, but the memories and sentimental value that it represents isn't.  I think that's what ppl mean when they say that the ring is irreplaceable. 

    I know that I would be upset if something happened to my e-ring.  I know how much effort A put into picking it out and going to great lengths to find out my size, etc. etc.  Plus, he popped the ? while on R&R and bought the ring while downrange.  When he went back to finish his tour, I got to wear a lil piece of him on my finger and I would look at it when I missed him.  So, there's added sentiment there.

  • You know what I think of when I think of a lost engagement ring???

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    UPGRADE!!!!

     

    lol But on a serious note, I do agree that it's replaceable. We have insurance and the jewelry company gave us a lifetime warranty. So if anything were to happen to the diamond we should be covered. 

    I had a friend that had a GORGEOUS ring and for their honeymoon they went to Mexico. She took off her ring as they got to the beach and put it in her husband's gym bag. They came back to the bag missing. Someone stole her ring. She did not have insurance. That was a sad day. So she basically had to spend just as much on a new ring when insurance could have covered it.  

    ETA: I should have proof read it before posting. lol 

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  • Replaceable. Heartbreaking but you'd get over it eventually.

    Doesn't it essentially get "replaced" if one gets divorced then remarried?

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    UPGRADE!!!!

    LOL

    My husband didn't propose with a diamond, but my first husband did.  I guess I see 'sentiment' as a memory, it's not tangible.  I haven't worn my first wedding ring in like 6 years, but I still remember the feeling I had when he proposed, etc.  Many days, I even forget to put my ring on, because I see it as jewelry.  I'm still married, with or without it.  (On an unrelated note, I feel the same way about my last name.  I'm just as married with my maiden name as I would be if I took Joe's last name.)  When Joe lost his ring, he was upset about the engraving, which surprised me. 

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    Replaceable. Heartbreaking but you'd get over it eventually.

    Doesn't it essentially get "replaced" if one gets divorced then remarried?

    Not just replaced, but upgraded!  Wink 

    I gained more than a karat!!

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    Replaceable. Heartbreaking but you'd get over it eventually.

    Doesn't it essentially get "replaced" if one gets divorced then remarried?

    Not just replaced, but upgraded!  Wink 

    I gained more than a karat!!

    See! Win/Win/Win!

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  • I'd be really, REALLY upset if I lost mine, but ultimately I'd be ok with it in the long run. Actually, should I ever lose my ring, I already have ideas of what I'd want and it wouldn't be all diamonds. I like the idea of having garnets and peridots in there too in honor of both of our "weddings".

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  • I'd be a little upset, but I don't think I'd freak out. It was a set he bought from a Mall Jeweler, not his great grandma's ring she had worn throught the Holocaust. lol

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    I'd be a little upset, but I don't think I'd freak out. It was a set he bought from a Mall Jeweler, not his great grandma's ring she had worn throught the Holocaust. lol

    I didn't know they gave rings out at the Holocaust!

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  • It's soul suckingly replaceable. How about that?

    It could be replaced but it had such a sentimental tie for me that I would be absolutely heartbroken if anything happened to it.

    Honestly, if I was just going to lock it in a hotel safe, I would leave it at home. But I'd take it with me and it would never leave my finger, especially as I don't expect to be kneeding dough or mixing meatloaf while on vacay.



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    I'd be a little upset, but I don't think I'd freak out. It was a set he bought from a Mall Jeweler, not his great grandma's ring she had worn throught the Holocaust. lol

    I didn't know they gave rings out at the Holocaust!

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    Replaceable. Heartbreaking but you'd get over it eventually.

    Doesn't it essentially get "replaced" if one gets divorced then remarried?

    Not just replaced, but upgraded!  Wink 

    I gained more than a karat!!

    Dude, the first go round, I had tanzanite and a couple diamond chips. Cost maybe $250 bucks.

    I got more than ten times that, duuude. In ring AND husband, tyvm.



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    I'd be a little upset, but I don't think I'd freak out. It was a set he bought from a Mall Jeweler, not his great grandma's ring she had worn throught the Holocaust. lol

    I didn't know they gave rings out at the Holocaust!

    LOL

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  • At first I was going to say totally replaceable, but then DH didn't propose with a ring. He proposed with a letter. It's easy for me to just come up and say that.

    On the other hand, some people's rings (or stones) are family heirlooms. I can see feeling like it's irreplaceable if the stone was cut in an unusual way or something. I have my mom's wedding set at home waiting to be reset some day (the rings are two sizes too big for me). I would see it as replaceable, but I also see it as a symbol of something that has already lasted 30+ years.

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    I'd be a little upset, but I don't think I'd freak out. It was a set he bought from a Mall Jeweler, not his great grandma's ring she had worn throught the Holocaust. lol

    I didn't know they gave rings out at the Holocaust!

    lol, I just typed the phrase "quotes from" into google search engine and "the Hangover" was the most popular search.

  • I agree with the whole replacement thing...but the sentimental value is going to be hard to let go.

    I was NOT expecting the ring that I got from H when he proposed...and I would be really upset if I lost it...but I know it could be replaced. At the end of the day, we have the memories of our engagement and marriage, and a new ring won't take that away. We'll just make new memories with a new ring, if it ever came to that (which, I hope it doesn't).

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  • B offered me a 5 year upgrade and I said no thank you. This is the ring he put on my finger the day he asked me to spend the rest of my life with him.

    I will not trade in or up.

    That being said... I like Ojo, leave it at home when I am off doing whatever. I forgot to take it off before we did the NIC with the Privates it was scratched to hell, but that can be buffed out. Won't make that mistake again.

  • The object can be easily replaced. The sentiment behind it is irreplaceable, and will always be there. I pretty much feel that way about most tangible objects.
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  • I'm in the "totally replaceable but still heart-wrenching" camp. I leave my ring at home when we're going to the beach or someplace where I'd worry about losing it (and wear a sterling silver + CZ with the same cut instead). It's insured and the actual ring could be replaced, of course, but the sentimental value is worth more to me than its monetary value.

    For those same sentimental reasons, I won't ever upgrade either. ETA: Although, I definitely don't care if others upgrade or not. One of my best friends has upgraded twice times already and her ring is beautiful!

  • They are replaceable, but I would be devastated to lose my wedding band (over my engagement ring). My wedding band is actually my late Grandmother's anniversary band, and it has huge sentimental value.

    While I would be upset, the ring is replaceable, it is the sentiment behind the object in the first place. 

  • Replaceable, but I am on the fence about upgrading. H offered to get me a bigger diamond on our 5 year wedding anniversary, but I'm unsure if I want it.

    My mom still has the ring my father proposed to her with, even though she hasn't worn it in years and has something much flashier now, and plans on giving it to one of my sisters. It doesn't have to be an antique to pass down.

     

    ETA: I wouldn't mind having the diamond I have reset with something bigger.

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  • I would be pretty upset if I lost my engagement ring. It is extremly sentimental to me. My proposal was awesome =] unforgettable.

    My engagement reminds me of that day over and over again and therefore It would make me upset...However, if I lost it. I would want a replacment but It wouldn't make me feel the same way as my original engagement ring.

    I love it. =)

  • I think its replaceable, although I wouldnt be too happy about it.  I would do an "upgrade" as my ring is just a plain solitaire and changing out the stone wouldnt be too big of a deal, but only if I could keep the original stone and maybe set it in a pendent or something.  DH was under strict orders to get the plainest ring he could find, so it really wouldn't be too hard to replace if it ever came to that.   

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