I need your advice!
I have a new boyfriend and we have been dating for 3 months. My problem - he doesn't show affection. He will hold my hand while watching a movie at home on the sofa and he'll show affection in the bed when he knows it will lead to sex. Other than that, I get nothing. He doesn't touch me, he doesn't hold my hand, nothing. I often reach out to him - rub his back, his arm, touch him, tell him how I am attracted to him, how cute he is, etc. In bed I snuggle up to him, etc, but it's never the other way around.
I've gently told him more than once that I often feel like I don't really know how he feels about me and I bring up the affection part. He always responds that "he knows, it's his fault, he'll try harder, he'll get better". But I've never actaully seen a change or seen him try. Now, he does think that when he spends money on me, that he is showing me he loves me. I would much rather have his words and his affection over MONEY!
Is it a lost cause? Do I need to move on? I will say that I had been in a long term relationship for a very long time and am new to dating and honestly I wonder if I went about this all wrong from the beginning. I really liked him, maybe I tried to hard. Maybe I made myself to easily available. I don't know what to do from here. I feel ridicoulous bringing it up AGAIN!
Thank you in advance for your advice!