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Would you take an infant to Tahiti/Bora Bora?

We're starting to plan our trip for next year and DH suggested going to Tahiti/Bora Bora/Morea (not sure which island or hop around) for 10 days. Our baby is due in January and we were thinking of going in the summer. I looked around at different websites and really didn't see much mention of this being a family type of place, or at least a place where you wouldn't bring very young children. The impression I've always had is that it's a great vacation for couples. If you've been, would you consider bringing an infant? Do you think it would have ruined your experience to have children running around? DH and I are trying to be mindful that not everyone likes having children around, hell we don't always care for kids around us when we are vacationing. I suggested we just rent a condo in Hawaii for 10 days and go to the different islands, but DH and I have been to Hawaii a bunch of times and I know this is a dream trip for him and want to be mindful of that (and we went on my dream trip this year). Your honest opinions are greatly appreciated!!

Re: Would you take an infant to Tahiti/Bora Bora?

  • MrsCFBMrsCFB
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    disclaimer: i've never been.  that said....

    No.

  • personally, bora bora is one of those ultimate dream trips for me. I envision it as a vacation without kids.....and for a significant anniversary if not honeymoon. just so you can relax mostly and focus on each other.

    that said, a 2-8 month old is fairly easy to travel with and they still sleep a lot. so you *could* still relax but also easily tote the LO around as needed in a snap-on carrier like the Ergo.

    where would you stay? if you are in an overwater bungalow, what's the noise control like? will other bungalows be able to hear if your LO is crying in the middle of the night for something like teething?

    your 6 month old won't be running around ;-P  you would be feeding him frequently, he would be taking naps, you would lounge in the pool and beach and play on the sand. he would play with toys on a mat on the beach. he would be strapped to you if you decide to go hiking.

    personally I'd do something cheaper but similar for next summer. caribbean? costa rica?

    and save bora bora for an anniversary trip w/o LO.

  • Its a very romantic place for couples and honeymooners, I would not suggest bringing an infant.  Sorry.  We did see two kids while there about 2-3 years old (Thank god they were quiet when we saw them) but I wouldn't recommend it.  If I was in an OWB (paying a couple hundred $ a night) and had a screaming baby in the hut next to me I would be upset.  However I don't think any of the resorts are adults only.  Maybe once your baby is older maybe the two of you could get away for a week. 

    I was going to recommend Hawaii, too bad you've been there many times.  There are family friendly resorts such as Beaches, maybe you can check them out.  Good luck!
  • Oh heaven's no.  If not for yourselves, but for the other guests and airplane passengers. 

    Dream vacation + breastfeeding = Wilted Flower

  • My daughter travels really well.  I would have taken her to Hawaii at 6 months old, no problem.

    However...there's no way to know how your kid will be until he's here.  You could have a dream kid, or you could have a really colic-y fussy guy who screams 24/7.  We travel alot and my DD is always fine and happy.  My SIL and BIL travel infrequently now, because their DD does NOT do well on the road...their weekend beach trip was "the worst weekend of their lives".

    I wouldn't plan a trip at all until after you have the baby.

    Plus, 6 months post partum, you probably won't really like your body in a bikini.  I wore a bikin last summer (2 months post partum) BUT I really felt disgusting still, and sort of emberrassed about my body.  Plus I was nusring so my boobs were HUGE.

    I would rather save Bora Bora for a time when your baby is a little older and you and DH can get away alone together.

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  • I've been and I would never think of bringing a child.  While some of the hotel pictures make it seem like the bungalows are far apart, they aren't.  I honestly would be extremely upset if i heard a crying child.  At this point you don't know what kind of baby yours will be and even the good ones cry.

    That trip was a once in a lifetime trip for DH and I.  It was amazingly quiet, beautiful, & relaxing.  I would wait to do the trip for when you can leave the baby at home.  You won't get the same experience going with a baby because of limitations of what you can do plus you may potentially spoil someone elses trip.

  • My first thought would be taking an infant on a flight that long.... Indifferent  My parents took my baby brother with us to Hawaii when he was 8 months old-- he screamed the whole time because of the pressure on his ears.  Not that every baby would have the same reaction, but it was a hellish flight.

    In general- no.  I don't think of it being a very kid-friendly place, and I'd be wary of taking my infant out of the country where I'm not familiar with the hospitals and health & safety standards. 

    I would do a family friendly vacation, then plan the Bora Bora trip for next summer when the baby is old enough to stay with grandparents.

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    My first thought would be taking an infant on a flight that long.... Indifferent  My parents took my baby brother with us to Hawaii when he was 8 months old-- he screamed the whole time because of the pressure on his ears.  Not that every baby would have the same reaction, but it was a hellish flight.

    Most parents, that travel regularly, know tricks to help their kids out, so they don't cry the entire flight.  I just took my 11 month old DD on a 13 hour redeye flight and she did great, didn't make a peep the entire time.  On the flight home, she did fuss for about 15 minutes. 

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  • image julie5220:

    Oh heaven's no.  If not for yourselves, but for the other guests and airplane passengers. 

    Dream vacation + breastfeeding = Wilted Flower

    Here we go again - look, while I wouldn't do it with an infant because who wants to enjoy Tahiti or Bora Bora with a baby, it is too romantic a place, to say she shouldn't because of the sake of other airline passengers is crazy. People fly with babies. Deal with it. We take our son overseas quite often.

    DS 02.10.2008 * DD 04.05.2011

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  • My DH and I went 8 months ago for our honeymoon. It is definately a honeymoon / Anniversary location. I would recommend having the in-laws or your parents watch your LO if you guys decide to go.

     

  • No.  Most of the time you would be dealing with getting the baby over jet lag.  It is not worth it to me.
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    image julie5220:

    Oh heaven's no.  If not for yourselves, but for the other guests and airplane passengers. 

    Dream vacation + breastfeeding = Wilted Flower

    Here we go again - look, while I wouldn't do it with an infant because who wants to enjoy Tahiti or Bora Bora with a baby, it is too romantic a place, to say she shouldn't because of the sake of other airline passengers is crazy. People fly with babies. Deal with it. We take our son overseas quite often.

    Just because people DO fly with babies doesn't mean they SHOULD fly with babies.  I'm not saying I wouldn't do it if I had kids, but I don't, and I don't like annoying people of any age on my flight.  An adult can be reasoned with to shut up.  An infant on a 12 hour flight can't me.  

    And my point was mostly about the other resort guests.  I cannot imagine a screaming child in a bungalow near me.

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    Just because people DO fly with babies doesn't mean they SHOULD fly with babies.  I'm not saying I wouldn't do it if I had kids, but I don't, and I don't like annoying people of any age on my flight.  An adult can be reasoned with to shut up.  An infant on a 12 hour flight can't me.  

    And my point was mostly about the other resort guests.  I cannot imagine a screaming child in a bungalow near me.

    I laugh at the notion that there should be a world where babies shouldn't fly. It is really ignorant to think that families who live countries apart from each other should give up the right to see each other simply because they had a baby and shouldn't risk that they be an 'annoyance' on a plane. 

    Perhaps you should start saving for a private plane, because unless you do you will have to live with the fact that people do - and SHOULD - fly with babies. 

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  • image andrea922:
    image julie5220:

    Just because people DO fly with babies doesn't mean they SHOULD fly with babies.  I'm not saying I wouldn't do it if I had kids, but I don't, and I don't like annoying people of any age on my flight.  An adult can be reasoned with to shut up.  An infant on a 12 hour flight can't me.  

    And my point was mostly about the other resort guests.  I cannot imagine a screaming child in a bungalow near me.

    I laugh at the notion that there should be a world where babies shouldn't fly. It is really ignorant to think that families who live countries apart from each other should give up the right to see each other simply because they had a baby and shouldn't risk that they be an 'annoyance' on a plane. 

    Perhaps you should start saving for a private plane, because unless you do you will have to live with the fact that people do - and SHOULD - fly with babies. 

    Ditto Andrea.  My kid is a great traveler.  And, I would be willing to bet, that Andrea's kid has more miles earned than you do, and he's like 3 years old.

    Plus you sound like you'd be a real peach to sit next to Cool

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  • OMG no.

    Look, I realize there are parents who travel often with their kids, but I am going to second the poster who said you need to know your baby first before you travel.  NOT EVERY BABY IS A GOOD TRAVELER.  I could do a trip easily with one of my children and not the other.  One of my children is just very sensitive and was that way, even as a baby.  She can't sleep well in locations that are not her familiar environment, does terribly with time changes and as a baby didn't sleep through the night until past 10 months.  If you have a baby like this, and you won't know in advance, a trip so far away could become a nightmare for a couple seeking some relaxation.  And for us, this was our experience - and we just went to the (very close) Caribbean!  We spent the trip completely sleep deprived and stressed about our unhappy, crying baby.

    Another thing to keep in mind is how comfortable you feel traveling to a place with more limited medical care in a foreign health care system.  Some parents are more comfortable with this potential option than others, and it depends on whether your baby is born with any particular health conditions.

     

  • We went for our HM and it's definintely a couples place.  I can't imagine the flight there with a child, let alone having to forgo so many of the activities (Snorkeling, sailing, etc.) because of the child. If this is your DH's dream trip, why not wait a few years until the kids can stay with grandparents and you can go alone?  You can do it with kids, I just don't see why you wouldn't opt for a less expensive beach location.
  • I have to agree with PPs.  I would probably save it for a vacation when your LO could stay home with the grandparents and you and DH can be alone and enjoy it. 

    How about somewhere in the Caribbean?  St. John is amazing - you could rent a villa, relax, see the gorgeous beaches and still island hop if it suits your fancy! 

  • Thanks so much for the honest feedback ladies. As much as I would love to go, I really can't imagine having a ton of fun with a baby to entertain. I also didn't realize how close the OWB's were. DH and I hate more than anything to be disturbed by screaming children when we are trying to relax, so I will spare other people that problem. Even the best behaved children cry and can be disruptive. We'll probably look at the Caribbean. I always forget that option, living on the west coast. We may also look at a cruise of the Greek Islands (DH's other dream trip), but we will definitely wait to see what our LO is like before we book anything. In the meantime, I will be hoping a praying for a baby that likes to travel, because DH and I definitely don't want to slow down on our trips. Thanks again!
  • I don't remembering seeing kids at any of the hotels we were at.. I'd say no, it seems like a romantic trip! 

  • No way!  I agree, that's a "dream" trip for me, and I wouldn't want to drag a kid along for it.  But that's just me.
  • Hell no. We'd have baby stay with grandma.
  • What did you do? We live in Hawaii and are considering going to Tahiti with our baby.
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