well - we took our kitty to the vet and got some bad news. It's not an infection. She is a manx kitty (has no tail) and a common problem with this breed is that their spines don't grow to completion and causes problems. This has happened to her. The nerves around where here spine should be at the end are not working or are impaired therefore she has no control over her urination (she's just leaking it out now) She will be prone to bladder, kidney, and urinary tract infections forever and is going to need constant care - e.g. someone to squeeze her bladder hourly to insure there isn't backup. She will also have lots of skin infections unless her fur is kept clean daily. So - with my husband and I both being in school and working we won't be able to provide her with this care, we aren't home every hour.
The vet (Dr. Hope - thanks to the nestie who recommended him - he was great!) recommended finding a home or animal sanctuary that could give her this care (this was before I even told him that we were both student, etc). We called a lot of sanctuaries today and they are all at capacity. We called an animal hospital that also adopts out pets and they said they would take her and give us another kitty (which I don't think I could do), but they would have to put her down.
Does anyone know of any person or animal sanctuary that may take her and give her the attention she needs? I would love to keep her, I've been crying almost constantly since I got home from the vet, but I know I can't give her the attention she needs and deserves.